(Closed) Learning how to let go

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MissCalifornia:  Lol nooooo I was the opposite with the ring. He was insistent in picking but I’m very particular with jewellery – took me months to convince him to let me have input! We did end up picking the same one though 🙂


As for proposal, he will not relent! I am having trouble coping with it cos he doesn’t have a concrete reason (at least one he’s sharing) as to why it can’t be pretty much now >.<

Post # 4
4524 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I didn’t think I was type A, but I’m learning that in some ways I am. I hate that something so important to me is out of my control. I also am pretty used to being able to get what I want, so this waiting thing is new to me.

Post # 5
1360 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@MissCalifornia:  Me! I’m super type A, much more so than I would like to admit lol I honestly didn’t want to oick my ring, but we started looking at styles and he would send me pictures to get an idea of what I wanted, and I hated every single one. Amazing the lack of observation or listenting skill this man demonstrated, I love him to death but I am SO happy I got input on the ring.

My requests when he asked me what I liked: not round or princess center stone, wanted something different. No solitaire. No bezel set. Dainty and delicate (size 5 fingers, a 3-4mm band looks huge on me!), but not super ornate or over the top. I sent him pictures, which all had a common theme: Emerald cut with baguette or emerald side stones OR Marquise/Oval/Pear with a pave band or any shape side stones.

Not too hard right? WRONG. He sent me about ten ‘what do you think of this ring’ pictures. Yeah no, fail. Bezel set round, he felt it made an impact. Solitaire with super thick band, it feels solid. Double halo, he liked that it sparkled so much. Princess cuts, were pretty and not round but square! I love that man, but he can not buy jewelery for me! I ended up picking two and he chose between those, I knew which one though!!!

He did have full control on the proposal though, even though I wanted to meddle, he did not let me at all and even if it wasn’t what I always dreamed of (I wanted low key, intimate, he went all out over the top) I loved him because it was so him and he put so much effort into it! I was rerally happy in the end that I didnt get a say in the proposal. It was a complete surprise and it completely blew me away!

Post # 6
7437 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

Good for you! You had the opportunity to take control and thought better of it. That shows a lot of self control, which is a good thing 🙂

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