Post # 1
As the countdown to our wedding day ticks away, I’m finding my usually anal self learning to let go of things beyond my control.
* Wedding party alterations aren’t going well. I might be handing out safety pins the morning of. I have to remember that whatever failures there are won’t reflect on me and Photoshop does wonders.
* One of my close friends won’t come to our wedding due to unexpected expenses even after I offered to get her plane ticket and have her share a room with another friend. Her husband was miffed and I think even offended. Ahh, pride.
* Our hotel block is so screwy right now.
* Our out-of-town bags won’t be ready in time.
All I can do is shrug and move on so I don’t lose my mind.
Has anyone else had to learn to let the little things go so you didn’t go insane?
Post # 3
@techie: Girl, hang in there, you’re almost there! The 2 weeks before our wedding, I threw in the towel. I cried every day and all I wanted was for the wedding day to get here! 🙂 It got to the point where the last thing we did, our seating chart, DH put it together. That was his baby – he caught me bawling over an empty poster board and told me to go away. 😛
Don’t worry – you have done a fantastic job planning, and all the little things that happen at this point will hardly be a blip on the radar on your wedding day! You’re going to look and feel beautiful, and be so happy you won’t even notice! 🙂
How many days left now? 🙂 I’m so excited for you!
Post # 4
I get your point..i THINK i have all under control so far. What’s worrying me is the music..i have an almost complete list of the musics for each part of the wedding (guests arrival, bride arrival, ceremony, after ceremony, cocktail, entrance in the reception, our first dance and so on) BUT i still need a few more for the lunch time (maybe mainly instrumental) an i have to show it to the person in charge of the music..the thing is..that’s my stepson and he’s been detached from all the wedding planning though i did enrolled him months ago. I posted the reaon behind his detachement..sigh..
I think we brides worry too much.My fiancee laughs everytime i show him a sketch i did, each time i come with an idea or show him something i had planned. He says i am amazing , he wouldn’t thought about it in a million days and well, makes me feel i worry and stress too much..whichh maybe he’s right! I believe most men are miles away from what concerns us.
I am thinking of the film “Shakespeare in Love”..twice a character said all will run smoothly ib the end..somehow!!! 🙂
Post # 5
@techie: I only got down to the picking your battles stage in the last week or so, so you’re ahead of me! It is definitely the way to go to keep your sanity. I was also surprised at how much I was willing to let go of given how Type A investment banking New Yorker I normally am.
In the end, I am glad I didn’t go ape over the things that were bothering me so much at the time (family drama, Maid/Matron of Honor not having time to make a guestbook poster for us) because it just didn’t matter. All of our guests have been kind enough to say that our wedding was perfect, except for the weather (and that we REALLY didn’t have any control over!).
Good air in, bad air out…. 😉
Post # 6
Oy. The last few weeks are the worst and everyone just expects you to put on a smile and do it gracefully! I called our hotel like 30 times and screamed at them several times, and they still effed up our block. Also, a week before my wedding I asked my BMs if they had found bra’s to wear under their dresses since they were backless and my cousin actually said: I have a strapess bra…will that not work? (I emailed them every week with suggestions). Even at the rehearsal, the order was all wrong and our DOC messed everything up for the processional. I made everyone do it 3 times until it was right. LOL I sound like a mega bridezilla, but I got it all done!
I will say, the things that kept me up the 2 weeks before the wedding was the logistics of the last few days: When will I get waxed, get my nails done, get my bag packed. I had like 30 lists going of all the things I needed to do and freaked every time I looked at it. IT all got done, I think I just needed something to stress over lol.
Post # 7
I am planning a wedding in a foreign country, I have control over nothing lol. It won’t be the wedding I grew up thinking it would be, but it is coming along fine and my Mother-In-Law is wonderful with the planning. No matter what happens, I’ll be married, I’ll have my close friends and family there, and the wine and food will be excellent. All I can ask for in my wedding 🙂
Post # 8
I’ve been learning to pick my battles as well in these weeks leading up to the wedding.
*My Future Mother-In-Law is insisting (and thus spreading rumors to anyone who’ll listen) that I’m being a bridezilla and forced my Future Sister-In-Law and other Maid/Matron of Honor (only have 2 gals in my bridal party) to get the dress that they got. That’s a load of hooey because my Future Sister-In-Law wouldn’t even CONSIDER the dress I really wanted her to wear and was adament that she’d only wear the one we ended up buying. Did I mention I bought her dress for her? I want to confront my Future Mother-In-Law so badly about this (in a nice way – I hate feeling like things aren’t resolved) but it’s not worth it because there’s no reasoning with her (if she wants to believe the sky is orange, she’ll believe it’s orange even if you take her outside and point at the damn sky) and it’d only make things worse.
*When my Future Mother-In-Law found out we weren’t going to plan any “official” day-after-the-wedding get together, she decided it’d be the perfect day to plan a birthday party for her son and grandmother…in a city an hour away from where our wedding is taking place. Nevermind that even though we didn’t have anything official planned, we still wanted to see people before we leave for our honeymoon. Nevermind that she’s going to be planning a HUGE birthday party blowout in 1.5 weeks up to the actual day of our wedding. Nevermind that she ORIGINALLY wanted to throw the birthday party during our rehearsal dinner. Grrr…like I said in my other bullet, it’s just not worth it to talk to her about it.
I’m a whiney, selfish McSelfishPants today.
Post # 9
Oops, been traveling the last few days and didn’t realize I got replies. Glad I’m not alone!
No tears yet but I have another week and two days for a meltdown! Your wedding was so beautiful. <3
“I am thinking of the film “Shakespeare in Love”..twice a character said all will run smoothly ib the end..somehow!!! :)”
Good to hear!
Lol. Half the iissues you had are similar to ours. I’m glad it all came together. 🙂
Yikes! I thought out of state was hard enough. More power to you!!
Eeeek. O.o Feel free to vent. Yikes!