(Closed) Learning to Say “No”

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Sorry you’re having to go through all this!  Wedding planning is difficult and stressful enough without other people making it harder.  (((((HUGS))))  Hang in there!  Stories like this make me glad we’re planning a small, intimate garden wedding at his mom’s house, with the reception indoors in the formal dining room – so much less stress and money involved.  But we are only having about 20-25 guests, only close friends and family.  And I have a very small family, my mom passed away in 2000.  So far, so good but I have put my foot down (politely, I hope) that even though it’s an informal wedding there are certain things I want to be a certain way, and I’m not willing to compromise on those few things.  Fiance has two sisters who are very helpful/opinionated and while I appreciate the input, this is our wedding, not theirs.  I hope things get better for you soon!!

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@bubbly234:  Just noticed, we share the same wedding date.  Smiles! 

Post # 5
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662 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

You’re never going to be able to please everyone. I try to keep a lot of the little details to myself so I don’t have to deal with everyone’s opinions.

Regarding the rehearsal dinner- I think the SO’s are supposed to be invited- especially if they travel. I’d find it extremely rude if I traveled with my spouse to someone’s wedding & had to figure out dinner on my own b/c only he was invited to the dinner. Maybe they can do a cheaper alternative so that SO can be invited?

Hang in there- your wedding day will be here before you know it and all this will be behind you!

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I understand what you are going through. Our wedding planning has begun and it’s tough to disagree with the people that are paying for things. Just remember that you may not get everything you want, but to try to stand ground on the things you most firmly believe in. Just try to keep lines of communication open with all parties as much as possible. In the end, keep your head up, you are marrying the love of your life, and not one person at the end of the night is going to remember any of this planning phase one bit! 🙂

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