(Closed) Learning to Stand Up For Myself.. Am I being rude? I need your opinions here pls

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
9614 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

She sound a little nuts!  You didn’t do anything wrong.  I’m so sorry you’re going through this.  I would be upset, too.  I think you’ve handled everything fine.  She is the rude one, not you.

Post # 4
2379 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

It feels like she wanted a thank you note in response to a thank you note.  I didn’t read anything in her email that indicated she wanted or expected a reply back.  I personally would just say something like “I’m sorry there was a misunderstanding, it was certainly not my intent to be rude” and let her take it from there. 

Post # 5
2534 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think at first, standing up to yourself feels rude.
Especially if you’re a people-pleaser like me.

But the truth is, “H” is being RUDE and deserves it right back at her! throwing a fit over not replying to an email… what is this, the first grade? Grow up!!

You’re fine. I would even say that you’re lucky this girl isn’t attending your wedding.
If she wants to gossip about you, so be it. Let her.
Don’t ask for any apologies, don’t expect any.
Don’t apologize for yourself, either!! You are in no way in the wrong here.

If your FI isn’t standing up for you, there’s a different problem there. :/

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