Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center
I am doing my best to just let this man be! It is really hard though.
When, as a woman, I have been in ‘The Driver’s Seat’ in the relationship, since the begining about everything, mostly. But now He’s the one driving the car and I am just waiting for that stop at the jewler before the stop at the chapel.
So I am leaving him alone. Litterally! He cannot surprise me with an enagament if I am on top of him all the time….So…I am LETTING GO. giving him some space.
Looking at wedding related stuff only gives me a headache. I just wanna call him my Fiance and not my Boyfriend or Best Friend.
And it makes me happy when he runs off to his Bff’s house to chat for an hour or two (this friend being the one who is getting married to a good friend of mine, so he is a good influence) I am thinking “Good! Get out of the house! Go look for a ring or think about how the hell you are gonna make this happen and make an honest woman out of me!” lol.
The things we never say.
But that is where my head is at lately.
Bees….Feel free to Buzz
Post # 3
@Sapphire-Dreamer: I know…what you mean!
I am the one in the relationship who makes all the plans. If it wasnt for me, we would just stare at eachother all day without anything to do. We’d never go out or travel or anything. This is fine…except I cant plan this one out FOR HIM! haha! whenever I bring up the whole “engaged” idea and ask him about, he just gets annoyed and says he wants it to be a surprise. Which is also fine, but this guy can barely plan out dinner, never mind a wedding proposal.
So Im trying to do like you said: give him space and not push him so that he can have his surprise. But goodness, it sure is hard keeping my mouth shut. hehe!
Post # 4
Good for you! It’s hard to not bring it up and leave him alone. I really wish the best of luck.
Post # 5
I’m with you! I’m such a bother-bee! I need to just give the guy some room to make his own moves. No advice, just an “I feel you.”
Post # 6
“Good! Get out of the house! Go look for a ring or think about how the hell you are gonna make this happen and make an honest woman out of me!”
this^ made me smile wildly.
great decision, hun! good luck to you.