Leaving a 2 Month Old? New Mom Help!

posted 2 months ago in Babies
Post # 2
315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

You will be fine to go if you want to. A lot of women have to go back to work before that point. When my son was about 8 weeks I left him for about 9 hours to go to my friends 30th I left him with my parents and left expressed milk, he was exclusively breast fed. I had to pump whilst I was out but if you have a break before the reception that should make it easier. I had a couple of events in the first couple of months after he was born so we started giving him occasional bottles of expressed milk at about 3 weeks to get him used to bottles and to make sure he could be fed easily when I wasn’t there. 

I’m in the UK so I had a 9 month maternity leave and that was the first time I’d left him for more than a couple of hours. Honestly, I really did not want to go but I’m so glad I did. You don’t realise how much you appreciate getting out and feeling like yourself again until you get the chance to to it. 

Post # 3
2511 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Tbh you won’t know how you feel about it until much nearer the time. 

I’d RSVP assuming you’ll have baby with you, if you feel able you can leave baby with family, if not you can take them.


i EBF my first so I wouldn’t have left him at 2 months. 

Post # 4
9006 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Personally I would not have left my daughter when she was 2 months old. She was basically on the boob every 2 hours at that point, and fought the bottle like crazy at home. I would have just brought her along with me and stepped out if she was fussy.

Post # 6
9011 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

Go! If you feel comfortable. If you don’t have supply issues, you’d probably be ok for 5-6 hours away. But since there is time in the middle, I’d either go home and nurse or have your pump with you. 

Post # 8
6443 posts
Bee Keeper

sauve2015 :  you could absolutely pump and leave a bottle at that age – the real question will be are you up for a wedding and are you comfortable leaving your baby which you can’t possibly know until you have him. My breastfed baby started sleeping through the night at 8 weeks because she’s a magical unicorn (for which I am eternally grateful) but more likely you’ll still be only getting max 3-4 hour stretches of sleep at that point. At that age he’ll still be eating every 2-4 hours and you’ll want to bring at least a hand pump with you so you don’t get engorged while you’re away from baby. 

Post # 10
8925 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

This would be me going to that wedding:

While all babies and mothers are different yadda yadda yadda, I would’ve been fine leaving LO with someone for a few hours (and he wouldn’t been fine with it too). If going back to see him/feed him between the ceremony and reception is a viable option, I’d take advantage of that. It’d give you a chance to make sure everything’s alright and feed him (or pump) and then go back out.

Post # 11
1446 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

You’ll be ok. Advice given from other new mum’s is to get the baby onto a bottle in the first couple of days. My SIL  gives her 3 month old an expressed bottle every night. That way he is used to it and so she can leave him with her mum for the night. 

Post # 12
1634 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I went to a wedding when my daughter was about 1 month old.  I was excluaive pumping at the time, but I didn’t have any milk saved up yet.  My daughter stayed with my mother in law, and I got them a hotel room across the street from the venue to stay in during the wedding.  (The venue was about an hour away from my house, and we did not stay overnight, just rented the room for the evening.)  I pumped, left the milk with my Mother-In-Law, and went to the ceremony.  Then I came back after the ceremony to snuggle my baby and pump again.  Left the milk and went to the reception.  We stayed for dinner, the speeches, first dances etc.  Then we headed back to get our daughter and go home.  It went quite well actually.  (Other than a huge thunderstorm that caused the wedding party to run screaming away during the middle of the ceremony, but that was another story lol)  

In short, I think you can totally do this if you want.  You will have 2-3 hour chunks of time where you can be away if you are breastfeeding or pumping.  Plan accordingly.

Post # 13
315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Yeah, me too. We are definitely lucky with the leave we get in the UK. I know a lot of people who had issues getting baby to take a bottle which is why is started so early. There is a lot of mixed advice due to potential for nipple confusion with the bottle but I would introduce it slowly once you are confident and comfortable with the baby’s latch. 

Like I said I hated leaving him. I only did it for special events. I left him for a few hours when he was 3 weeks as we’d bought tickets for a concert before I got pregnant. I cried in the taxi all the way there. But again I found as long as he was with my mum once I was out I really appreciated the time. It will also be a good opportunity to have some quality time with your husband. 

Post # 14
664 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I may be jaded because I’m in the US, but I think you’ll be ok to go for an evening. My coworker only had 2 weeks maternity leave at her last job 😭

Post # 15
2421 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I would go. I attended a wedding when my son was only a month old. I pumped and we left the reception on the early side. 

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