Post # 1
Have to go to a close friend’s wedding in February and was curious if leaving a reception early-ish (2-3 hrs after the start) would be considered rude? The reception starts at 12:30pm, not in the evening. To stay longer, tickets are a lot more expensive and things are financially tight right now, so I’m trying to make a good decision.
I’ve only been to 1 other wedding before and I know they usually do a meal before a lot of the activities such as cake cutting, etc., and I don’t want to end up leaving in the middle of something important and offending the couple. Any thoughts/advice?
Post # 3
Going from what I know receptions last about 6 or more hours (I know that’s what it is in aust) I’d say 2 or 3 hours in may be a little too early as I could you only just getting through mains and onto speeches so it would be before cake cutting and first dance etc
Post # 4
I know a lot of people leave after cake cutting, but that is nearing the end of the evening
Post # 5
depending on how you do it, they may not even notice! I def wouldn’t get up when everyone’s still seated and quiet, that would be rude.
Post # 6
i’d be honest and let the bride know that you want to come and the only way you can afford to right now is to catch a flight back out that afternoon which will mean leaving before the reception is over. if i were the bride, i think i’d notice and be upset if a close friend left significantly early and didn’t give me reasonable excuse.
Post # 8
I sure hope not! I ususally stay for the food and to watch the couple dance, etc. and then leave, I do not drink, hate the music at most receptions and I chose to leave before folks start getting sloppy drunk or insist I dance to crappy music. And when I see there is the dreaded dollar dance or chicken dance — I’m out of there!
Post # 9
@macshap: I agree as well. I know people married almost 3 years ago who STILL talk crap about the people who left their reception early! Like the couple have regular discussions to recap their shitlist! If you’re upfront about it, hopefully it will be a non-issue.
Post # 10
As a bride who had people leave early, and as early as 2 hours into the wedding. Just let the bride know up front about it. Our friend that had to leave 2 hours into the wedding told us in advance and apologized for it. He had to catch a flight that he booked months ago, we were so touched he was even going to come at all since he had a plane to catch. Then there are the others that just ducked out literally after the entrees were served without so much as a congratulations, thank you, or good bye. Those offended me. At least be respectful of the couple and not sneak out.
Post # 11
I agree with @macshap & @yellowshoe let the bride know ahead of time that you have to cut out early. It will mean more to her that you let her know and that she sees that it’s a priority to you to be there in the first place. Having you there for even some of the festivities should mean more than not having you there at all!
Post # 12
I did this once because I thought it would be fine to cut out at 11pm if the reception ended at 12 and it was such a bad idea!! The venue spaced everything out so we hadn’t even had dessert yet at that point and there were still special dances left. I had already arranged for a car service so I had no choice, otherwise they would have charged me a ton extra!
Post # 13
A couple people left our wedding right after food was served. I thought it was so weird. I didn’t notice them walking out or anything, but later in the night I noticed they were missing and I’ve kind of wondered why they left ever since.
One friend left early because he was driving home (a 3-hr drive) that night and didn’t want to be on the road too late. That was totally fine with me… he told me ahead of time, he told me bye before he left… I was just glad he made the long drive for us! But the others… I’ll probably always wonder what happened to them!