(Closed) Leaving before he wakes up, bad?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

Even if you have good intentions, even if you’re strict about keeping things platonic with this guy, you really shouldn’t be sleeping over when you have a boyfriend. If you’re drunk, get a cab or have a friend pick you up, or just don’t drink too much when you’re at his place. No matter how innocent you think it is, there is just too much room for things to get messy in this situation.

This whole thing screams: BAD IDEA.

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

Ask him – just be straight up and don’t try and assume anything.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

Why are you sleeping at this guy’s place? Even if there is nothing (anymore) between you guys, I think it’s a no go in a relationship. How would you feel if your boyfriend sometimes slept at some girl’s place he used to hook up with? Nothing wrong with hanging out once in a while, but make sure you get home, call a cab or whatever.

And about leaving before he wakes up and him being mad, well, just ask him. We don’t know him, we cannot read his mind. Good luck.

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 2 months ago by  dalia88.
Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

I think the bigger issue here is how close you are with this male friend of yours.  You are definitely playing with fire.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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KiwiChookie: What is giving you the feeling he’s mad at you? It sounds like you’re judging that based off him maybe not liking your post on FB or something which is pretty juvenile. 

I’m not even going to touch you sleeping over at a friend’s house with whom you used to have sex while you have a BF. Hopefully your BF knows about that and is cool with it. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee

I’ve learned that when I have a boyfriend or someone I’m really into that any guys I had anything with feelings, sex a crush anything I cut them off. It’s only fair to the relationship that you be completely open to the new relationship. At the beginning when me and my Fiance first started dating I still hung out with this guy I had no future with but we were always very attracted to each other and I ended up cheating and we took alot longer to get engaged then if I would have just cut all the guys out in the first place.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

You know who could tell you exactly what’s wrong? Your guy friend.

You know who has no idea? A bunch of Internet strangers.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

Why do you think he is mad? Instead of worrying about it, just shoot him a text and see what’s up. The longe you wait, the worse it will be.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

Editing comment after reading OP’s update:

I wouldn’t assume he was mad at you for anything based on just that. He could have any number of things going on in his own life that alter his behavior right now. Give it some time and see if anything changes over the next few days.

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 2 months ago by  MiniMeow.
Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I am so confused. 

You say “We know there’s no romance between us because I’m not his type, and he’s too much of a “fun time” guy for me.” so why would he be mad about you posting something on FB about your boyfriend (which he knows you have)? Do you even know he’s mad?

And why would you assume that he’s mad because you left without saying goodbye? Is that really the only possible thing he could be upset about? If anything, I’d wager that he’s more likely to be upset thinking that you’re leading him on/giving him the impression that you’re into him, but then turning around and posting lovey dovey things about your BF all over FB before I would think he’s upset about you not saying goodbye.

 

ETA: Just saw your update and imma bow out of this thread now. My braincells don’t want to work this hard on a Sunday to figure all that out. Good luck!

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 2 months ago by  Grid.
Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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KiwiChookie:  Wait…you said you “have” a boyfriend and today you posted a funny status about him and you. But also, today, you broke up with the boyfriend? 

Too much drama…

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

I am so confused. 

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