(Closed) Leaving events- how do you and your SO communicate?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
14657 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

We just lean over to each other and say wanna go at an opportune time like people or us getting up to get drinks again, or going one group to another.

Post # 4
709 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

When it starts getting later, and I’m ready to go, I ask what time it is. Lol. That sounds stupid but then he knows I’m ready to leave within an hour. It gives him an hour to socialize more, and I can deal for one more hour. But it’s never anything we’ve ever discussed. Its just one of those things that just fell into place. Haha.

Post # 5
3126 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Usually we discuss it beforehand. When Darling Husband is ready to leave before I am, he just asks if I am ready to go. When I am ready to leave before Darling Husband, he usually anticipates it and turns to me and says we will leave in X amount of time. At my friend’s wedding, he was ready to leave before I was so someone offered me a ride home. We were both okay with it so I stayed for another 3 hours. I am lucky, Darling Husband is pretty easygoing 🙂

Post # 6
1527 posts
Bumble bee

Most of the time we give each other ‘the look’ that means we’re ready, but sometimes I’ll end up texting him if he’s not paying attention. Haha.

Post # 7
3254 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@glittermoon: Same here! We’re pretty good at reading each other, but sometimes it will take one of us going to the bathroom and texting the other- LOL.

Post # 8
2496 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

We’re both pretty social people, so generally we are usually the last ones to leave a party.  Yeah… we’re THAT couple. 😉

But, there are times we’re ready at different times, so we’ll just give each other a look or talk quietly to each other.  If we’re going to something neither of us really want to go to, we have a specified time we’re leaving arranged before getting there.

Post # 9
5667 posts
Bee Keeper

Usually one of us will just learn over and quietly say “getting tired,” “not feeling well” or just “Is it time to go?” It works pretty well.

Post # 10
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@sunshine_kar: “What time is it?” is classic. We use it all the time. It’s kinda like code for, “I’m tired, get me outta here.”. 

Post # 11
1002 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I give him a look. He knows what it means. He then announces that we will be leaving shortly and we start saying our goodbyes.

Post # 12
2584 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We usually can just give the other one a look and we know, but if that fails one of us just says, “I’m pretty tired, (insert socially acceptable explanation- work, school, sick, etc)” and we know it’s time to head out. We never discussed it though…. it just sort of happened.

Post # 13
3367 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

“The look” works for us too… he usually responds by moving his head a certain way that no one notices (it’s not a practiced or thought-out thing, just his quirk) that tells me he got it, and we start saying our good-byes.

ETA: Or what FutureMrsTimmins said!  I skipped to the end w/o reading everything.  lol

Post # 14
1508 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

@guitargirl: You can try text messaging. Me and SO do this sometimes when we’re in situations where we don’t want to say something in front of the people we’re with.

Post # 15
5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I do the ‘Hey Babe, what time is it?’ code, or if that’s not working, I’ll send him a text. 🙂 

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