Leaving kids in the car? Poll.

posted 3 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: Would you leave an 11 year old and baby in a car alone for a few minutes?

    No.

    Maybe, depends.

    Yes.

  • Post # 31
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    Sugar bee

    What a wonderful thing, to live in a place where – with a 100% certainty – no one would even think of harming an unsupervised child. Because it would take that kind of certainty for me to consider leaving a child in a car, even if just for five minutes. Do places like this really exist?

    Post # 32
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    My policy has always been if I am willing to leave five $100 bills in the same place my child is, then great, leave them. You will note that this has nothing to do with the weather, and there is nowhere a child may be hidden in a car. Leaving your child (presumably worth more than $500), anywhere you wouldn’t leave that amount of money in full view is negligent, regardless of the period of time. 

    There was a woman who always left her infant son in the car when she came to pick up her daughter from preschool, except the wait could sometimes be 10 minutes. I called her in, though I have no idea what – if anything – happened. Whatever it might have been, she deserved it, as she routinely left him in the same car, in the same place, at the same time, every single weekday. If anyone wanted to steal a child, that one was there for the taking.

    I have three children, and it is a major pain to take your children in with you when you have to make a 5 minute trip into the post office. But DO IT. These years don’t last long, and the inconvenience is better than wishing you had inconvenienced yourself.

    Post # 33
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    Helper bee

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    PaperQueen :  the temperature in a car can climb to seriously dangerous levels in “just 5 minutes” – why put your kids in a potentially life threatening situation just because you’re too lazy to bring them into the store?

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    jackiebee :  I never said anything about dogs I think you quoted the wrong person. Someone who wants to abduct children would probably choose the unsupervised ones as victims first. Let’s be real. 

    Post # 34
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    Helper bee

    Do not feel guilty. It was a few minutes, in  your sight, windows down, with an 11 yo in the car. I certainly babysat children at that age. You are fine!

    Post # 35
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    I don’t have kids but i think 11 is old enough to stay in a car/home alone. We’re talking about jr high age here. 

    Post # 36
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    Sugar bee

    Apparently a lot of people disagree, but as a mother, I would never leave my baby in the car, PARTICULARLY in hot temperatures, with no ac, and with the windows rolled down. My issue is not the older child, it’s the infant. 

    I would have called the police too. 

    Post # 37
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

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    sdxz554 :  oops, you’re right, I @ you by mistake. Sorry!

    Post # 38
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    Honey Beekeeper

    Never, ever, ever. Not even once. 

    Post # 39
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    Busy bee

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    sf618 :  When did I ever say that all parents are shitty parents who forget their kids? I said that kids who die in hot cars have died because their parents lost track of time. Any parent who consistently leave small kids in hot cars are terrible parents. Period. There is no justification. 

     

    Post # 40
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    Bumble bee

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    abeeinlove :  She was making a point about the ways in which temperatures affect these living beings. So the comparison IS, indeed, apt. 

    Post # 41
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    Children literally die from this daily. Would you also give your baby a marble to play with for only 5 mins because surely they couldn’t swallow and choke on it? 

    Sorry, baby (and kids in general) in a hot car = bad parenting. I’m glad you realize the mistake but I also would call the cops. The lady had no idea how long you were gone for, if she didn’t report you id count yourself lucky.

    Post # 42
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    I think the lady way overstepped in this situation. She could have waited for awhile to see if you came back before she freaked out. 

    It depends on many factors—could you see the car, how hot was it, how mature is your 11 year old, how safe is the area where you live?

    I live in an area that is very hot. Even a few minutes sitting in the car can be too much. I also live in an area with high crime. I wouldn’t leave anything in my car where I live. We have had cars stolen here with kids in the car. It just takes a second. 

     

    Post # 43
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    I remember when I was 13, being left with a family friends 10 month old baby for the evening and praying the baby wouldn’t wake up. An 11 year old can look after a baby for a couple of minutes. 

    Post # 44
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    Most of the laws regarding leaving kids in cars are written in a way that expressly prohibits leaving children unattended in vehicles. Because your 11 year old (an age old enough to safely babysit for a short while) was in the vehicle with your little one, the baby was not unattended. Leaving the windows down is a double edged sword, but ultimately, I don’t think leaving your 11 year old to watch the baby for a couple minutes was so unforgiveable, assuming the temperature wasn’t sweltering, and you left the keys in the car with the kid to turn the a/c on just in case things got too hot. I used to stay in the car all the time at that age, and watching my siblings so my parents could avoid the hassle of waking a sleeping, cranky toddler for a 2 minute errand made sense. 

    However, I will admit this right here is exactly why I refuse to leave my dog in the car alone to run errands, ever. Even when the temperature doesn’t pose a threat, you can never predict the way other people act, or react. 

    Post # 45
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    i dont know, times have definitely changed, my parents use to leave me and my sister when we were younger in the car all the time to run in real quick when doing errands, obviously not during the dog days of summer, but it wasnt as scrutinized back then as it is now. 

    i left my small dog in the car when i made a 7/11 slurpee run once AT NIGHT at the end of winter, i was in the place for all of 5 minutes, always in complete view of my car and when i came out i had some older women claiming she was going to call animal services on me…. 

    people are just overly crazy now a days about those things. it happens.

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