Leaving somewhere you love for spouse's job

posted 2 years ago in Married Life
Post # 16
171 posts
Blushing bee

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LadyCapricorn :  I moved to the Bay Area from the East Coast to be with my boyfriend (now fiance) a couple years ago. We were dating long distance (NY-Chicago) and when he got his dream job he decided to move to California. Granted we were only dating at the time so I didn’t have too much of a say – I told him I was open to the move but not 100% sure yet.

In the end, I did decide to move to be with him. I love NYC and by deciding to move I was leaving behind a good job, my friends and family. For me it was worth it and I’m glad I took the plunge. Moving can be lonely and jarring at first but it’s been so exciting to go on new adventures and discover new bars, restaurants, parks, etc. with my partner. I figured if things went south, I could always move back to NYC (but they didn’t!). 

Post # 18
672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

If it’s not TT, is it contract or permanent? If she’s hoping to get back on the TT market after spending some time at this big name university, this move will be temporary. And does she already have the terminal degree in her field?

Post # 19
610 posts
Busy bee

My advice is to think of it like this. If you absolutely hate it and are miserable there, you can always move somewhere else! 

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