Post # 16
I moved to the Bay Area from the East Coast to be with my boyfriend (now fiance) a couple years ago. We were dating long distance (NY-Chicago) and when he got his dream job he decided to move to California. Granted we were only dating at the time so I didn’t have too much of a say – I told him I was open to the move but not 100% sure yet.
In the end, I did decide to move to be with him. I love NYC and by deciding to move I was leaving behind a good job, my friends and family. For me it was worth it and I’m glad I took the plunge. Moving can be lonely and jarring at first but it’s been so exciting to go on new adventures and discover new bars, restaurants, parks, etc. with my partner. I figured if things went south, I could always move back to NYC (but they didn’t!).
Post # 17
We got the official letter today. Salary is a little less than we were hoping so it’s going to be very tight. I guess I was hoping we’d finally have a little more breathing room. I guess it’s hard to look at it as an adventure when things that are already tight are about to become tighter. Not as easy to enjoy what’s supposed to be an exciting area if we’re crammed in a tiny apartment eating beans and rice.
I’m having a very hard time staying positive, and I don’t want to voice these toxic thoughts out loud. I know it’s supposed to pay off in the long run but the waiting has been hard, and I can see it’s not going to get easier.
For those asking, she applied all over the country and even some places outside of it, but these positions have hundreds of qualified applicants. Cali was the one who said yes, so that’s the one we have to take. We don’t really have other options we can talk over.
Post # 18
If it’s not TT, is it contract or permanent? If she’s hoping to get back on the TT market after spending some time at this big name university, this move will be temporary. And does she already have the terminal degree in her field?
Post # 19
My advice is to think of it like this. If you absolutely hate it and are miserable there, you can always move somewhere else!