(Closed) Left FI behind in my hometown today….

posted 5 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
Member
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am sorry you are feeling sad being separated from your Fiance. I know how hard it is to be away from the love of your life. We have modern technology which helps to bring your love ones closer such as skype, IM, phone calls, and every other weekend.

Try to set up a time every night for each other to talk before you go to sleep. It does help to know that the last voice you hear is from you Fiance. During the day send each other a text just to say I love you and miss you…

TRUST ME IT DOES HELP…

My Fiance is in Afghainstan right now and we do what we can.

 

Post # 4
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Aw you’ll be ok! It sounds like it’s the smart decision for now. Plus, just think about all the fun you’ll have once you’ve been missing each other all week! 

Post # 5
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631 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You’re from Carlisle. My family is from York. Are you guys going to Ship?

I feel like distance in a relationship really can bring you closer together. The bonds you are forming with each other’s families will be gold. When my new hubby and I lived in PA and MD, we had the most wonderful phone conversations and e mails. Every night he would wish me dreams of butterflies, hummingbirds and sugar plums. In the morning, he would call and sing wake up sunshine to me. I kind of miss that time. It was very intimate. I think you are going to miss him like crazy but if you try to do some of these things, it will make some wonderful memories.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012
Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Sunnyday278:  My fiance and I have been together for almost 8 years.  When we started dating, I was in high school in our hometown, and he was two hours away at college and neither of us had cars.  It was awful.  Then I went to college and we were an hour closer, but still no cars (thank goodness for Greyhound!).  Then he got a car, and we saw each other more often for a couple of years, but then I moved to Indiana for a year.  I moved back to our home state last year, and now we are living together and finally getting the hang of NOT being long-distance.  I have two thoughts to share with you:

1.  It sucked being two hours apart as much as being 900 miles apart.  It was a different sort of struggle, but it was still awful, so try not to get too down on yourself for being sad about “only two hours apart.”  Two hours is still a lot to drive, especially with gas prices being kind of high.  I think it’s totally normal and okay for you to feel sad about the distance.

2.  When my fiance and I moved in together, it was harder than I thought it would be to go from being in an LDR to SDR.  For instance, I missed our phone calls!  I was like, hey, when are we supposed to talk?  Do we just sit down every night now and talk for two hours like we used to?  It was hard to navigate the newness of living together while being SDR for the first time.  I just wanted to tell you this for the future, in case you find yourself having a hard time readjusting after you have gone through your current adjustment of living two hours apart.  Try to be patient with yourself and give it all time.  Someone once told me that human beings can adjust to anything.  I figure it is sort of true, as long as you are kind to yourself and give yourself room to struggle through the adjustment.

Good luck!  I hope you are feeling okay.  LDRs are so hard.  I feel for you guys. πŸ™‚

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Sunnyday278:  No problem!  I am glad it was helpful.  I hope you’re doing okay. πŸ™‚

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