Left Out of Future Sister-in-Laws Wedding Photos

posted 2 months ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
4922 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

I would be hurt for sure but maybe they have the mindset that until you’re the wife anything can happen and these pictures are forever. Then again, people divorce everyday. Is your fiance’s family nice to you otherwise?

Post # 3
1050 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Since you’ve been together for so long and you’re engaged and have a date set, I would also be upset.

Post # 4
1254 posts
Bumble bee

That is so rude!! You’re engaged with a set wedding date, so pretty much already family! 

Hows your relationship with his family otherwise?

Post # 5
445 posts
Helper bee

I clicked this thread thinking you were his girlfriend and they maybe didn’t want you included for that reason, however with 5 years of dating, plus being engaged, plus date set….yeah I’d be hurt too.

Were other spouses included in the family photos? What is your relationship with his family typically like?

Post # 7
9733 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I left my brother’s (at the time) fiancé out of wedding pictures. I don’t even know where she was while we were taking pictures. It was totally an oversight and not at all a slight against her. Maybe it was just your Future Mother-In-Law being dumb for a moment and nobody thought to correct it. Like maybe the photographer asked for just your brother for the next set of pictures and she misunderstood or didn’t communicate it properly. Idk…if there’s been no other issues I would just try to let this go.

Post # 8
12224 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

As you say, even if they had asked you to be in some of the photos it would not feel like such a slap in the face. I guess it’s possible they like you and draw the line at married couples on principle, but I think it’s insensitive to say the least. 

Post # 9
849 posts
Busy bee

gmgio :  Irrational? Probably. Your description that you were “devastated” seems like a major overreaction to someone else’s wedding. It’s her wedding: it’s reasonable she decide who she wants in her photos, especially since, I imagine you are not paying for the photos or the wedding. Your relationship with your fiance and the deposits you’ve put down are irrelevant. Plus, it sounds like you and her are not close.

Post # 10
3533 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

I would find that very hurtful. Have you talked to your fiance about it? What does he think?

Post # 11
600 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

Sounds very hurtful. This happened to me too, and now we’re divorced. Family ties are very important and it’s a bummer that she doesn’t want you in her photos. 

Post # 12
276 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2029

Have they always been dismissive towards you?  I’d be super concerned for what will happen in the future.

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