Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2014 - Southern Inn
Hello bees! I’m in great need of some advice on a roadblock I’ve hit on trying to change my name. I have went by my middle name for all of my life, and upon getting married I thought I would drop my first name, since it’s confusing, keep my middle name as my new first name, my maiden last name as my middle name, and my husband’s last name as my new last name. We went to the social security office today and was told that you can’t change your first name with them. I was told I would need to obtain a court ordered name change. In North Carolina, there’s very little information, and no forms. Only complicated statues, and a recommendation to have a lawyer handle it. Have any of you bees encountered anything like this? I need advice! I really would like to avoid complicated court nonsense, and I would really like to drop my current first name because I don’t go by it, don’t care for it, and it complicates things when on legal documents there is another name as opposed to the name I go by. I spent our entire honeymoon answering to my first name because that was what was listed on our legal travel documents. I’m ready to have my name I go by match my legal documents!
Any advice? Encouragement?
Should I just keep the annoying first name and add on my husbands last name? I would have 4 names in total…
Should I keep the annoying first name and drop my maiden last name to keep things simple?
Post # 2
Well this is your chance for a new start and go with whatever name you want to go by for the rest of your life. If there are any issues, you just have to think on whether it is all worth it or not.
I know here in Vancouver adding hyphens (-) requires an official court-change process because it’s being treated as a brand new last name and same with CHANGING any name at all. There is no need for any legal mumbo jumbo though if you are just “ASSUMING” your husbands last name. You just need to go through the process of changing your DL, passport, bank accounts etc with showing a marriage certificate. It’s a long process that I am trying to prepare myself for because I’m only assuming my FH’s last name.
As for you, just make sure it’s a name you want to stick with for a very long time so that you only have to do this once and once only. LIke I said too, just make sure it’s worth it. Honestly I would just drop the maiden last name and keep things simple.
Post # 3
It’s basically the process your FI would have to do if he changed his last name to yours. It’s pretty strange.
I don’t live in NC so idk first hand, but here’s a link that has it broken down simply
Post # 4
I am going to be using 4 names (first middle maiden last name married last), but I go by my first name. It just depends if you care enough to change it. I don’t know what county you are in, but the law should be the same. Go to your county/city clerk of court to get county/city specific paperwork. It looks like the process is this:
Post # 5
1. File paperwork
2. Post notice for 10 days
3. Get 2 affidavits from other residence of the county saying they know you (they want to know you didn’t just move to town, know no one awant you your name changed).
4. Get fingerprinted (basically same as 3).
5. Probably pay some court fees.
Post # 6
It depends on your state but in mine, if you’re over 22 you have to go to the police station and be fingerprinted. You also have to go to a hearing no matter what since they need to know you’re not doing it for dishonest reasons. In my state, it’s $150 for fingerprints and 8 long weeks to wait.
Going through the saaaame thing. I feel your pain. I’ve always went by the name my mother gave me, but my legal name is the name my father gave me. I don’t feel it’s MY name, never have, never will. It feels foreign when people call me by my legal name, so this is worth it to me!