Post # 1
I’m really confused about the law for legal officants for NYS. One thing we’re conisdering is asking my cousin to become ordained online and do the ceremony for us. I’ve looked at the law, but I’m still not sure if online ordinations count.
Here’s one of the websites we’re looking at
It says that its legal in NY, but I don’t want to have our wedding be invalid!
Post # 3
You need to check with the registrar / town hall in the place where you are getting married. There are some precedents (mostly in divorce or anullment suits) on the books in NY State that mak the internet ordainments not always recognized by specific counties because, in their definition of a minister, they need to be the spiritual leader of a group of people or have a congregation.
Don’t trust the third party ordaining website. This is your marriage, and it is a legal binding contract. You want to make sure it gets taken care of.
It’s totally confusing, and it totally sucks. My suggestion, if you find out that your brother can’t do it, and you really want him to, would be to "sign the paperwork" with a judg, justice of the peace, or courthouse earlier in the day, but have the actually ceremony, led by your brother, at the wedding.