Post # 1
This is purely hypothetical, just wondering and maybe some can shed some light.
I know one of the biggest problems about giving “provocative” pictures to your SO is the fear that no one knows what the future holds. You may end up in a situation where your SO could use those pictures against you later in life. Your photographer may (should) sign a contract stating they will not use the images in any way (ads/print/online/sell as stock) without your consent- What about your SO? Sure it takes some of the romance and surprise out of the gift- but putting any of those emotional aspects aside- would a similar contract signed by your SO protect you later on g’forbid he/she wants to harm your characher or reputation? an anti-defamation/libel/slander contract of some sort that states he/she will not distribute or make public these private images and what the consequence would be if they did?
Is this already a real thing? What do you think should be included to protect you from that sort of situation? I’m not familiar with what exactly this type of contract would entail or if it would hold up considering you are giving the pictures as a gift and technically they are now your SO’s property, but it seems it would assuage some (very logical) fears many ladies have. If it were a solid contract that would hold up in court- would you ask your SO to sign one, even if you don’t believe they would ever want to use the pics against you? (and what would you do if they wouldn’t sign it!!)
Things that make you go hmmmm 🙂
Post # 3
I feel like this is the #1 reason why I would never do Boudoir pictures. My Darling Husband can see me that way every single day if he wanted to. Why does he need photos of me like that, or videos. Just seems unnecessary to me. And, if something should happen, your reputation could be tarnished b/c of said photos.
Post # 4
You can make a contract with whatever you want to in it. You’d need an actual lawyer to help you get the wording right, for example the distinction between giving the property rights to the pictures for the recipient’s exclusive use vs. giving the property rights to the pictures for whatever use the recipient wants to apply. But if you’re worried that those photos might ever be used against you, you can certainly find a lawyer to draw one up and establish a set penalty for misuse.
As to “would I ask my SO to sign such a contract” personally I would not— not because I wouldn’t be concerned about those photos getting out, but rather due to the risk of the actual damage being far greater than whatever was in the contract. If your boudoir photo costs you a job, for example, the lost earnings would be extremely hard to quantify, and having a signed contract wouldn’t protect you from an employer’s judgement. By the time they’ve seen the photos, the damage is already done, as laywers say “you can’t un-ring the bell.” So while I could enforce the contract and get my $5000 penalty or whatever, it’s not going to make the employer think twice about not hiring me.
Best rule of thumb: some things, you just have to take on faith. This is one of them. If you can’t give a gift like that on faith that the recipient won’t mis-use them, then maybe it’s not a gift you should be given. It’s like giving a BB Gun to a teenager as a gift: some of them will be perfectly responsible with that kind of a gift, and others will shoot their little sister in the face for kicks; having a contract with stated penalty will be of small comfort if the potential misuse actually happens.