(Closed) legal wedding & "actual" wedding months apart?

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

What do you mean in France they have different rules? Wouldn’t you legally be married by the time of your wedding? I would just do the legal wedding/ceremony/reception all together. Why are you considering getting legally married beforehand?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

no, it won’t make your wedding less special.

Im from Mexico, and i got legally married the past November, but we will have the “actual” wedding (catholic ceremony) next year.

 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@redheadem:  

i dont know if it’s the same in france, but in mexico the “actual wedding” or what people care for the most is the catholic ceremony, not the legal one.

In order to be married by the catholic church you have to be legally married first.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Anamagana:  I thought the Catholic Church won’t perform a ceremony if you’re already married.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

@redheadem:  In some European countries you haev to sign the legal paperwork prior to the church ceremony. However this isn’t the case in England- the legal wedding would be the one they sign in the UK and the french wedding would be a vowel renewal by UK standards. A religious ceremony in France is not legally binding.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@redheadem: 

It wont if you were married by the church to someone before and want to marry another one.

But if you were single and it’s gonna your first Catholic wedding, you have to be legally married (with the paper signed and stuff)

That’s how it is in Mexico, i dont know in France.

🙂

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

No, actually in France a religious wedding holds absolutely no legal status, meaning that if you want to be married in the church you must also have a civil marriage.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@j_jaye:  

oh i see, good to know.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper

@peonia:  To answer your question OP- no the wedding wont be any less special to you unless you feel it is. Some guests may feel different. They may feel insulted to be invited to a destination vow renewal- it is a lot to ask of guests to spend their time and money when to them they are not actually seeing the wedding.

This would also depend on if your families are religious and the religious ceremony is the important part for them. But I would still question getting married so far ahead of the religious ceremony and so might they especially if religious!

Yes you will need to have a legal ceremony prior to a religious ceremony in France but I personally think the timing is important. can you not do the legal ceremony in the UK just before you leave?

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Why not just wait and get legally married in France?  

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We are getting legally married September 2012 at the courthouse, then having a ceremony at the beach in June 2013. We will consider ourself married, but it won’t be any less special for us. Ours is a small affair with strictly family and the closest of close friends. Nobody is seeing it as any less special, in fact family from across the country we figured would skip out are planning to come.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We got married October 12,2011 at the courthouse.  We are having our wedding october 12, 2012.  It still feels special and Im super excited for it.  The only thing is for the last year, I feel kinda married, but kinda engaged.  Legally, Im married, but mentally Im not until our wedding.  Its like being in limbo, but Im so excited about the wedding, I dont really think about it much. 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I got married september 2011 in small chapel did the legal one but will be doing the “big” and christian ceremony in september of this year. Im still excited, nervous, anxious, angry, scared lol every feeling every other bride must feel when planning/having their wedding.

My husband and I do wear wedding bands already

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@redheadem:  anamagana pretty much covered it, but here in mexico the religious ceremony isnt legally recognised and so its always seperate to the legal ceremony – difference between being married in the eyes of god and the eyes of the law i suppose. And shes right – the catholic ceremony is the one that people think is important and you invite all your guests to, whereas often the legal bit with the judge is done with just the required witnesses (i think its 4 or more)/immediate family

so i will have 100 guests to my catholic ceremony, but just parents and witnesses when we sign the papers

the reason i would assume its something similar in france, is didnt they completely seperate church and state (possibly after the revolution, my history is a bit hazy!!) so i can understand why perhaps it might also be seperate. whereas in the US/UK you can have a religious ceremony thats legal. in that case i dont think anyone would find it strange

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