- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2010
ok heres the whole story..
ps. i know this has nothing to do with weddings. but i need advice.
when i was young, my sister was molested by our caretaker. It went on a few times (touching mainly) and finally after 5 years had passed, we mentioned it to our social worker. She never said anything because idk,… she was scared, and obviously she was young.
Anyway, so then the social worker told the court (since we were a ward of the court) and yea.. once they found out they arrested this caretaker. He went to jail for about 3 months. He was put in there until proven guilty im guessing. Anyway, my poor little sister went through all these people questioning her about what happened. and constantly had to reap it to the cops and in court. even in front of our old caretaker.
Later, a friend of the caretakers daughter confessed to being molested by this caretaker as well(what an ass right?? grr) anyway…
after all this he was then released and all they did was put him on that megans law website for sex offenders. (i swear this system is messed up)
anyway.. they let him go because according to them there was no evidence of it. and some BS like that. and they say it had happened 5 years ago… and that there was no way of proving it. something stupid like that.(excuse the language)
after this, my smaller sister which was about 9 at the time and i went to an aunts house to live. As we stayed there i had started college and was dorming. I would leave every week because i was full time.
As weird as it sounds… i would have nightmares that my small 9yr old sis was being molested. Being scared i would ask her and she said everything was fine. ANyway.. she later wanted to move out of there really bad.
We later find out she says that he possibly molested her. She said that when she was asleep she would feel him sitting next to her and watching her. and possibly touching her. When i would keep asking her questions she seemed a bit unsure of the situation since she said she is a deep sleeper. We let the situation go till now that she appears unable to sleep due to nightmares of him.
We took her to a therapist and plan on taking her a few more times so she can get help, but we are a bit worried about it. why??
-because we dont want her to go through the whole process of going to court,, confessing like crazy and all that and having nothing done to the guy. and really when it comes down to it, it is only her hurting. We would prefer she gets help and move past the past and have peace in her self.also, because if my brother found out it would devastate him and make me sooooo mad. he would do god knows what to the man, and would probably never talk to us again because we never mentioned it to him from the beginning. i am not trying to seem selfish here… but just touching base of every outcome.
anyway… if she tells the therapist… isnt the therapist obligated to tell the social worker if she is a minor? and..does her caretaker/her/ or social worker have an option as to what to do once she tells the therapist? like will they make her go through the whole process of putting him in jail?
by the way…. the family that did it, is blood family to us sadly. and i feel like they are crazy enough to come after us(literly) although obviously my sisters sanity is more important.
anyway.. sorry for the long story. let me know what you think?