(Closed) Legally married before the wedding

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’m commenting so I can follow this post. My Fiance and I might have to do this so I can be on his insurance as I may have to have surgery before our wedding date. I don’t like the idea of it but I like it better than paying for an insane hospital bill that I didn’t expect.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I know a lot of people get married before their ceremony if they are having a Destination Wedding to avoid the hoops they would otherwise have to jump through to get legally married in a different country. It sounds like Mexico is particuarly awful, they require some sort of medical info and blood test? Don’t know the whole story, just from what people have posted on here.

I don’t know if this will help, but here’s a thread that I’ve kind of been following out of curiosity on getting legally married before a Destination Wedding. There’s some good info on here and some bees who have shared their experiences with being legally married before their ceremony.

 http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/legal-marriage-before-destination-ceremony

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Commenting to follow as well. We are having our Catholic ceremony in Mexico and trying to figure out whether to do our civil ceremony before or after the trip.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

We’re also considering this. 

To be honest, I’d like to keep it a secret from everyone except our parents and probably 2 of my bridesmaids .

To our parents, we’d be considered married in the eyes of the government, but not in the eyes of God.

So.. technically we WOULD be actually getting married the day of the wedding. It’s just that we got all the paperwork out of the way.

I’d probably celebrate the second date as the anniversary. We chose a date that I like and I’m not really a big fan of the number 3, so 2013 was out.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I got legally married in december of last year, we are having our “wedding” June 22, 2013.

My now husband is in the military. We needed to become legally married for several reasons because of this. The official day we went to the courthouse wasn’t a big deal…we dressed up, then went to subway and went Christmas shopping 🙂 But we kissed at 11:11 am which I thought was really neat!

No one knows except our parents and step parents.

We are having a typical big white wedding. I missed out on many life events (Proms, graduations, etc..) and my husband feels that I need to a day to be a princess (he is so sweet!). We still are doing the flowers, big guest list, venue, etc..

Treat the wedding how you want to treat it! If you have always looked forward to a big beautiful wedding, make it that! Its your special day 🙂

Good luck!

 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I am legally married and currently planning, what I call, the big party on APril 20th. 

I think it will be nice to commemorate both days because they are so vastly different from one another. The legal ceremony was very small and plan free, we focused on ourselves mostly. But from what I hear, the traditional weddings are such a wirl wind and they go so fast; friends and family to talk to etc etc. 

 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My husband and I got married in September of 2011. We are having a wedding this spring/summer. I recently started a thread on being already married and having a wedding and all of the celebrating that comes with it, and a lot of people resonded.Here it is in case you’d like to take a look.

 

My husband and I got dressed up for the civil ceremony. My family and his cousin and one of his friends came (his family lives abroad — we got married for immigration reasons). We consider ourselves married (as does everyone else), refer to each other as husband and wife, and are glad we got married when we did (in fact, he often says he wishes he could have met me sooner and married me a long time ago, lol).  

 

Now we are planning a party to celebrate our marriage. I will have a wedding dress, but I’m debating going full bridal or having something a little more toned down (for various reasons, my personal style AND the fact that we’re already married have something to do with it).  We will probably have some modified version of a ceremony (right now I’m thinking of it as “having a moment” where we might exchange vows, have a reading of a poem, recognize that we’re so incredibly in love, and be on with it.  We’re having dinner (or a cocktail party), a photographer, a dj and dancing, all of the fixings of a wedding.  

 

I do not think we will have any showers, and I’m sad to miss out on that, but the general consensus is that it’s a no-no having been married already.  I’ll just have to have a great shower whenever our baby time comes.

 

Lastly, I would recommend going ahead and recognizing the marriage, and not keeping it a secret. We considered keeping it hush-hush, but it seems so complicated, and people would have been upset (they were upset that they weren’t involved in our original ceremony) and it just avoids a lot of heartache.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@multinational:  hi ! we got married earlier too =) for immigration and health insurance reason ;p 

Post # 13
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514 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@karineh:  Yay for international relationships. 🙂  Pretty hard, but so worth it! 

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I will also be legally married before our wedding due to religious reasons. His family would like us to be religously and legally married before we move in, we will have the wedding later this year which I am hoping will include a non religious but traditional ceremony for my side of the family and a big reception. I just don’t know how to go about it either and how the second ceremony would work. 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@bowsergirl:  No problem. Any time you have any questions or any ideas, please feel free to bounce them off of me (work them out together, because I may be having the same issues!!). Anytime. Anything.

And “just because”, here are some photos of our civil ceremony day. 

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