Ok i have a similar situation.
We got legally married on 11/11/11 and our wedding was planned for the 3/12/11.
(the chapel ceremony and reception was planned for a couple weeks after the legal day cause the legal day was a friday and i just really wanted to have that date, so the 1st available saturday was the 3/12/11)
now i had problems with my inlaws comming up to my wedding cause i am greek christian and he is lebanese muslim and they didnt agree with us getting married.
So 6 months be for the wedding they pretended to accept and that they were excited about the wedding, mind you i was paying for the whole ($40,000 aus )wedding single handed with not a dollar from my inlaws or my hubby, so 2 weeks before we were legally married when the inlwas saw that we were for real and this marriage was going ahead (cause they thought we would break up) they tried breaking us up, ans started causing trouble and said to my hubby that they would not be comming to the wedding and then all his relatives said they were not going either in respect to his family , but it didnt work and we continued with our plan and we got legally married and had 3 – 4 weeks to go to our wedding ceremony and reception and so they put the pressure on the hubby and 3 days befor the actual wedding day he turns around and says to me i cant go through with it, i cant have the chapel wedding and i cant walk into the reception without my family there i know we are married and i want to be with you but i just cant have the wedding part of it cause i dont want to hurt my family……
So 3 days away from my wedding i had to cancel everything loose all my money and tell all my side of the family and guest including my dad and mum that was so waiting to see their girl as a bride that there was no wedding and that we were just skipping off to the honeymoon one that my parents paid for mind you…..
so as deverstated as i was and my family, i chose to stay with my husband instead of getting divorced after 3 weeks marriage and let his parents win, and of course cause we had been together for 5 years and i loved him, so we went off to the honey moon to greece and there my aunty gave me a little bbq wedding with 30 people that i didnt even know really, just so i would atleast get to wear my dress for an hour.
to make things worse oon the day we were leaving fot our honeymoon, when i went to pick him up cause we had to be at the airport his mother wouldnt let him leave the house, and all the way to the airport until we boraded his parents were calling him and fighting with him telling him not to go on the honeymoon…. WE WERE MARRIED ALREADY…. anyway it continued they called him everyday on our honeymoon until finaly they convinced him to go back home early, so he went back home and i stayed in greece and continued my holiday, and by then i had had enough, so i said to him…. go home sort out your life cause and make your choice, your wife or your mother, cause this cant go on, we can get a divorce and be done with it if you are always going to do this to me.
Now at the time i thought i would get over it but i havent been able to get past that i didnt get to have a wedding, i didnt get to have my dad give me away, i didnt have a cake, or wear my dress for more than an hour (dad paid $4000 for my dress) my wedding was always my one and only dream, and my inlaws destroyed that for me ……..
So we said we would have our wedding at a later date so i can get a chance to have my wedding, we are trying to save some money to do a small wedding not as glamorous as i had paid for but at least something so i can wear my dress and have the day ive always dreamt of with my mum and dad there, we are aiming for our aniversary date the 11/11/12 so it could also be like a renewal of vows.
Now some people in my family (my aunty and he husband) are talking and ive heard gossip saying that they said why she having a wedding later? she is already married , were not going….. and i was really hurt by that, cause no one has really sat back and thought how i felt that my wedding was so badly ruined , but they were quick to gossip….
so what im asking here is do you think it is tacky to have a wedding a year or 2 after we were legally married ?