(Closed) Legally married first, then wedding and reception a few years later?

posted 7 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I would think that your parents at least should know.  A friend of mine married her husband in a hurry because he was being deployed.  She had a very small ceremony in the church with just their parents and I think they had a Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man.  A few years later, when he had returned, they renewed their vows in a more wedding-like ceremony, complete with reception, cake, and photography.

You didn’t say where you are living, or where your parents are living in relation to that, but is it doable that you could do either a small church-wedding or courthouse wedding that they attend?  

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think you need to tell your parents.  Regardless of whether or not they will be upset, you are going to be married.  You need to tell them the truth.  What would happen if they found out later and knew you’d kept it from them? 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

If you’re old enough to get married, you’re old enough to tell your parents what’s up. Let them know it’s a practial thing, and that you’ll have a vow renewal when you two return. I think it would be way more hurtful to not be told. Good luck! And safe travels!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

This was an old situation guys, she probably already made her choice. But I do hope she didn’t decide to keep it a secret, that’s no way to start a marriage. Maybe she’ll come back and update.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Being that they said it wasn’t for four months and had made no update, I felt the need to respond in case they hadn’t, as no one else had simply said to tell the truth.

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