- 8 years ago
- Wedding: November 2010
I do love my now, by law, husband. I know he will do everything to make me happy and that he really cares about me. Still, the day of our civil wedding he really surprised me. That day cleared any doubts I could ever have about his love for me.
Our Church required us to get married by law first before a Judge or a Notary, therefore we started planning our civil wedding. I wanted to do something very small without the family, just some really close friends. Our families don’t really know each other so having a civil wedding with only friends sounded more appealing.
My family began questioning this decision; they wanted to celebrate with us and be there the day we would become a married couple by law. However, I stood by my original idea and kept on planning my friends-only event. The problem began one week before the chosen date when my boyfriend’s family found out that tradition dictates the groom’s family is in charge of the civil wedding. Because of this, they wanted to get involve and planned a dinner for 20 guests at a local restaurant.
A few days before what was supposed to be my dream civil wedding everything changed. i now had to invite my parents and siblings to this dinner and was really stressed about this. I did not want to spend the day of my civil wedding in an uncomfortable dinner with families that didn’t know each other and just mingling around making sure everyone was getting along.
The day before and the day of the civil wedding I was very moody. I was both sad, disappointed and angry. I didn’t like the fact that my boyfriend just letted his family planned this event knowing I didn’t want that. He noticed I was in a bad mood and two hours before everything offered to cancel everything. He said that he thought having the event was a good idea since my family also wanted to be a part of it, but that he now understood that I really wanted something different.
Of course that two hours before the dinner it was hard to cancel and I didn’t want his family to think that I didn’t appreciate them offering and planning everything, therefore canceling the dinner was not an option. My boyfriend then offered to talk to the judge to just not get married then but a few days later and just go ahead and celebrate, but our families would then know we did not get married then (everyone will be expecting the Certificate of Marriage at the dinner). Finally, we decided to go ahead with everything and get married that day and in spite of it not being what I wanted and what I dreamed of, my now-husband showed me HE IS everything I ever dreamed of.