Post # 1
Had an interesting discussion about this last night and just don’t understand why someone would choose to travel (for fun, not work) and not take their SO with them.
I have a friend who has gone on at least 4 international trips for leisure in the last 12 months and has never taken her SO. She doesn’t travel alone but asks female friends to accompany her. She never asks her BF if he’d like to go. I get “hanging with the girls”/partying trips and such but every trip, including major events like birthdays? Personally, it’s suspicious to me. Who can’t have a great time with their BF/GF? Maybe me and my GF are too close because she’s the only one I’d want to actually travel with. I don’t get it.
Post # 2
uncltredpearl: Perhaps her SO doesn’t like to travel.
Post # 3
There are plenty of reasons why I wouldn’t travel with my SO, such as he has work or he doesn’t want to be away from his son for too long. Does that mean I don’t invite him, though? No… I always mention he’s welcome. But if I were to take a trip to see my best friend for the heck of it, I’d probably just go alone. And I’ve visited home, a flight away, without him accompanying me, as well.
It just depends on the situation.
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
uncltredpearl: I only travel without my DH when I’m going to see a friend. My two best friends moved out of state last year so I’ve driven to Ohio to see one for a day and flown to Utah to see the other for a week. For the Utah trip we couldn’t afford for DH to go with me and for the Ohio trip DH said he’d allow us to have our friend time wihtout him tagging along. I wouldn’t travel alone without my DH though.
Post # 5
DH likes to travel, so we’d go together if we can. If an opportunity to travel without him came up though, I wouldn’t turn it down. I went to Spain with some GFs when we were dating and he couldn’t go because he didn’t have enough vacation time. Too bad, just cause he couldn’t go, I wasn’t going to deprive myself of a trip.
Post # 6
julies1949: she’s never asked him to travel with her. Yes I know this as fact because I’ve asked her. She would rather go with a friend.
Flying to another country to celebrate your birthday without your SO is just strange to me
Post # 7
Post # 8
I do and will continue to do so every year.
My busband has limited and strictly timed holidays (he’s a teacher), so he can’t always go when I want to.
My BFF and got married a month apart from each other, and then took honeymoons with our guys, and then a “honeymoon” together.
Not everyone needs to be fused to their SO to have a great relationship. Differences IMO are related to people’s attitudes towards travel, and ability to travel often.
Post # 9
uncltredpearl: I’m definitely like you, I have not and don’t see myself wanting to travel without my FI. I don’t necessarily think there’s anything wrong with people who do occasionally, especially if their SO can’t get off work or can’t travel for some other reason. I certainly would never go on an actual vacation without my FI. Hell, I bring him with me when I travel for work too! The only situation where I have traveled without an SO in the past is when I was visiting home and they couldn’t get off work.
Post # 10
uncltredpearl: I would absolutely go on a “girls trip” with my friends. It likely wouldn’t be a HUGE trip – for example, overseas or somewhere tropical. That I would prefer to do with my husband if I am going to be spending a decent chunk of change. But if they wanted to go away to the beach or mountains or something, hell yes! I dont see a problem with that.
Post # 11
I have travelled and will travel without my H/SO. Sometimes it’s because he doesn’t want to go or can’t get the time off. Other times it’s because I’m going to see a friend or I want to spend time with *just* my friend(s).
Just because I’m in a relationship with someone doesn’t mean I have to do EVERYTHING with him. I’m still my own person with my own relationships. So, no, I don’t think it’s weird that your friend doesn’t travel with her SO.
Out of curiosity, how long has your friend been dating? Because if it’s a newer relationship, then I can see her not asking. Or maybe the SO is a total drag to travel with (complains all the time, is easily flustered, doesn’t like trying new things) or maybe he hates flying or maybe she knows he doesn’t have the money.
Post # 12
I rarely travel without my husband, save for a weekend girls trip here and there. But I get that it doesn’t always work for some couples to travel together. To each their own
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I’ve traveled locally as well as internationally without my now-husband. It was usually because it was a girls trip or he couldn’t afford it / couldn’t get time off / etc.
But yes, I would ALWAYS rather have him come on a trip because he’s my favorite person! However, some people don’t like to travel or are sucky travel partners (hate uncertainty, hate new food / language / experiences, complain the whole time, etc)…
Post # 14
They’ve been together over a year and work together. Same unit, same schedule so they see each other everyday. Whereas I work and live 45 minutes from my GF and we sometimes can’t see each other for a few days. So our travel objectives would be different; she wants to get away from her SO and I want to spend as much uninterrupted time with mine as possible.
Post # 15
- Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016
If I’m going to travel for fun, I definitely don’t want to go alone. I like travelling, but it really stresses me out and I hate doing it by myself. My SO is almost always the first person I would ask to go with me, and it helps that he’s amazing at travelling and absolutely loves it. Of course, I get wanting to travel with my sisters or my best friends, so in that case sure, he would understand that I want some girl time and he’d go hang with his friends instead. But I very rarely get to take these types of trips, so I personally wouldn’t choose to constantly leave him behind. He’s my very best friend, I absolutely want him with me, and if it means changing the dates or paying a bit more, then I will.