Post # 1
My fiance and I are trying to schedule a wedding for late March or early Apr of 2011, and the first Church we tried told us no since this coincides with Lent. Did any of you have issues with weddings during Lent?
Post # 3
I don’t have personal experience, but Miss Cheeseburger wrote a post about it 🙂
Post # 4
Some churches will not perform any ceremonies during Lent, but it really depends on the parish and diocese. I believe some churches choose not to perform any marriages during Lent because it is supposed to be a time solemn time, not for celebrations.
If you check around with other churches in your area, you might be able to find one that does perform marriages during Lent. If you can’t find any in your area, you may have to wait until after Easter (which is April 24th in 2011). Good luck!
Post # 5
I agree with Mrs.Spring that it depends on the church. Some don’t do them at all during Lent (yes it’s a solemn time but there are also lots of other things going on administratively in the preparation for Easter), and others insist on solemn-type weddings (like saying you aren’t allowed to decorate the church). I would not be surprised if you encountered stipulations even if you do find a church that will do a wedding during Lent. Good luck!
Post # 6
I agree with the other ladies – just ask around. Lent is supposed to be a solemn time (no music, no water in the baptismal font), so a wedding ceremony may not fit in with that. But, you may be able to find a church in your area that will allow it.
Post # 7
Weddings during Lent are highly discouraged, but they aren’t prohibited, so as the other Bees said, you may be able to have one elsewhere.
Before you look around more, though, I recommend reading up on the traditions. If you can show the priest you are serious about it, such as showing picutres of appropriate Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and only serving fish and vegetarian food at the reception, my guess is that you will get a better hearing.
Post # 8
You can find some church’s that will allow it. I was really young when my older brother was married, but it was def. April. I can’t remember if he had to get married on a Friday because the following Sun was palm sunday, or if he had to push the wedding back a week or 2 because of Easter. They wanted a full Catholic mass though – maybe they’ll allow a short ceremony instead?
Post # 9
im planning a wedding for the same time, and my church seemed hesitant at first when i told them that i wanted it during lent. but, once i assured them that it wouldn’t be anything over the top (although frankly, i can’t imagine what people do that is “over the top” in church during the ceremony) they warmed up to the idea. also, i explained that my fiance’s schedule as a police officer really only leaves that brief slot of time open for us to wed and honeymoon. sometimes just explaining the rational behind what your asking helps to open doors.
although they may seem resistant at first, i agree with monitajb – brush up on traditions and assure them that it isn’t going to be anything audacious or gaudy and that you plan on following traditions.
also, i would try looking at other churches (assuming that you intend to from your mention of “first church” in your post – some will relax the rules more readily than others.
Post # 10
Some churchs dont but I never ran across any that said no. We just have to keep flowers to a minimum and take them with us (fine by me 🙂 )
Post # 11
My parents had a lenten cathedral wedding. If I recall (from old photos), there were no florals except those that my mom carried and the boutonnieres.
Post # 12
Thanks for all of the info. I guess we’ll just have to look around a bit. Good thing I’m persistent!
Post # 13
My cousin had one back in the early 90’s. No flowers to decorate the church only bouquets and bouts. No pew ribbons but then again you really didn’t see those back then. The date they choose had family significance so I think that’s why it was allowed.
Post # 14
I think a lot of Catholic churches won’t let you get married during Advent or Lent. I know ours wouldn’t have.
Post # 15
We’re getting married during Lent, but our church is a very popular site, so I think they have to do Lenten weddings just because of demand! It’s the basilica at our alma matre, and they do 4 weddings every Saturday–so if they cancelled them during Lent, that would really lower the number of weddings they could squeeze in! We aren’t allowed to bring in any flowers besides bouquets/bouts. We also already decided to do a seafood rehearsal dinner–95% of our guests, including all of the wedding party, are practicing Catholics. In fact, the only non-Catholic who we plan on inviting to the rehearsal dinner is my vegetarian sister, so it all will work out.