Post # 1
I have a close friend who recently decided she was a lesbian. More power to her! She is totally happy in her new relationship and I’m so happy to see her happy.
Anyway….I heard through the grapevine they were at a party a few months ago and were making out infront of everyone. Not like peck on the lips, but full make out session in the middle of the dance floor. I’m of course inviting them to the wedding, but I’m so worried they are going to do this at the reception (where liquor will be flowing freely) I think it’s horribly tacky. I don’t even want to see a straight couple making out…GET A ROOM. So what happens if they start doing this at the reception? How can someone say something without offending them?
Post # 3
You basically treat it exactly the same as if a straight couple did the same thing.
Post # 4
You would ask them or have someone else ask them to stop, just like you would any other couple, lol. Personally, I have a Bridesmaid or Best Man who volunteered to keep an eye on certain guests we’re afraid might get too drunk or cause a scene.
Post # 5
@jo.lee: good idea! Yeah..there are those few I’m wondering about. It’s just with her recent decision to come out, I just don’t want to offend her or make her feel uncomfortable.
Post # 6
What was the nature of the party?
I don’t think that there’s a way that you can preemptively ask people not to behave a certain way–especially if they’re guests. You just cross your fingers and hope that everyone behaves well and if someone doesn’t, you or someone else you appoint has to handle it when it happens. The good news is most people, gay or straight, don’t suck face on the dance floor at a wedding, even if they might do so at a more raucous party.
I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 7
If she’s a close friend can you be honest with her? Be careful about things said “through the grapevine”. If may have been more innocent than it is being portrayed to you now. Just make a light joke about it maybe? Like, “hey X, no making out on the dance floor, alright?”
Post # 8
@2dBride:I’m just worried with her recent decision to come out that I would offend her. I just don’t want to upset her.
Post # 9
Well what kind of party was it? When I think of parties I’ve been to vs. weddings I’ve been to… *most* people tend to act more appropriate at weddings. I hope you can trust your friend enough, lesbian or straight, to act appropriate at your wedding without having to chaperone as if it was a middle school function. If you were going to say something to them, then you would have to say something to every kissing couple at your wedding. Don’t let something that might not even happen put a damper on the happiest day of your life.