Post # 1
I am a lesbian Mother of the Bride and am not sure of the protocols surrounding my partner’s part in the ceremony/reception. My daughter’s dad is deceased so I will be “presenting her” to be married.
Any suggestions on what my partner should be wearing, what she should be doing, what photos should she be in, etc. etc?
Post # 3
The way I see it is, your partner is a part of your daughter’s family. That being said, your partner, if she’s interested, should wear what she likes and be in any photo she likes. I’d talk it over with your daughter, but if your daughter thinks she is an important part of her life, why limit what your partner can and can’t do?
Post # 4
how is your daughter relationship with your partner and how long have you been together?
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Does your daughter accept your partner as a stepparent? If so, I would recommend that she serve the same role as a stepfather. She would sit with you at the ceremony and reception. She will be in any family pictures your daughter wants her in.
Have you asked your daughter what role she wants your partner to play? You might want to start there.
Post # 6
I would definitely talk to your daughter about this and see how she feels about it and the role that she believes your partner should take in the wedding.
Post # 7
I agree with pp and I would suggest having a conversation with your daughter about what role she was hoping your partner would play. Also talk to your partner separately to ask her what role she was hoping to play. This way you know what both of them are thinking.
Post # 8
One more vote for talking to the bride, because the answer is basically: whatever you and she and your partner feel comfortable with. Good luck, OP!
Post # 9
There is are a number of directions to come from on this. How long have you been together, how close is you partner to your daughter, what does your daughter and your partner want?
One of the bridesmaids at my wedding is gay, and what she wears is up to her, as with all of the people standing with me on that day.
Post # 10
Even leaving aside the LBGT issue – in my experience, partners of the bride’s or groom’s parents have no real part in the wedding. e.g. at both my sister’s and brother’s weddings, my father’s wife just dressed like an ordinary guest, and played no part in the weddings except she was seated with my father. So for the ceremony, your partner would be seated. You walk your daughter down the aisle, and then take your seat with your partner. You should be seated with your partner at the reception too.
It is up to your daughter what photos to include your partner in. But don’t be offended if she’s not in many – I don’t think my father’s wife was in many either.
Post # 11
@Hyperventilate: +1 I totally agree with you