(Closed) Lesbian mother of the bride with questions

posted 6 years ago in LGBTQ
Post # 3
9114 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

The way I see it is, your partner is a part of your daughter’s family. That being said, your partner, if she’s interested, should wear what she likes and be in any photo she likes. I’d talk it over with your daughter, but if your daughter thinks she is an important part of her life, why limit what your partner can and can’t do?

Post # 4
658 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

how is your daughter relationship with your partner and how long have you been together?


Post # 5
9139 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Does your daughter accept your partner as a stepparent? If so, I would recommend that she serve the same role as a stepfather. She would sit with you at the ceremony and reception. She will be in any family pictures your daughter wants her in.

Have you asked your daughter what role she wants your partner to play? You might want to start there.

Post # 6
1748 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would definitely talk to your daughter about this and see how she feels about it and the role that she believes your partner should take in the wedding.

Post # 7
3141 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree with pp and I would suggest having a conversation with your daughter about what role she was hoping your partner would play. Also talk to your partner separately to ask her what role she was hoping to play. This way you know what both of them are thinking. 

Post # 8
1733 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

One more vote for talking to the bride, because the answer is basically: whatever you and she and your partner feel comfortable with. Good luck, OP!


Post # 9
407 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

There is are a number of directions to come from on this.  How long have you been together, how close is you partner to your daughter, what does your daughter and your partner want?

One of the bridesmaids at my wedding is gay, and what she wears is up to her, as with all of the people standing with me on that day.

Post # 10
7673 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Even leaving aside the LBGT issue – in my experience, partners of the bride’s or groom’s parents have no real part in the wedding. e.g. at both my sister’s and brother’s weddings, my father’s wife just dressed like an ordinary guest, and played no part in the weddings except she was seated with my father. So for the ceremony, your partner would be seated. You walk your daughter down the aisle, and then take your seat with your partner. You should be seated with your partner at the reception too.

It is up to your daughter what photos to include your partner in. But don’t be offended if she’s not in many – I don’t think my father’s wife was in many either.

Post # 11
1463 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Hyperventilate:  +1 I totally agree with you

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