Post # 1
I met with my DJ last night and we had a great meeting, except one point he made that I’m not sure what to think of. We are having about 70 people at the wedding. The reception is on the same site, just a different part of the property. It’s about a 45 minute drive from the city so most people would stay for the reception if they’ve driven that far out. We are doing a buffet.
The DJ said he always suggests having less seating than needed so pictures don’t look empty and guests are mingling instead of all sitting down. He suggested we have tables and chairs for about 40 guests…out of 75. I can see his point (a little), but at the same time I wouldn’t dare invite guests to party, eat and have fun then not have chairs for them. He says the only people that need seating are elderly guests. The rest would be more incline to mingle and dance if there weren’t a ton of open seats according to his theory.
Has anyone heard of this before?
Post # 3
@The_Future_KB: This is the worst idea I’ve ever heard of. Whether there are enough seats or not will not make people dance if they don’t want to.
I went to a wedding recently where they didnt have enough seats and I thought it was pretty tacky.
Post # 4
Maybe for a 300 guestlist you might think there will be a few no-shows, but 40 chairs for 70 people ? This is ridiculous.
Post # 5
@The_Future_KB: Please don’t do this. Nobody wants to be standing for the entire evening, especially when they’re eating. If your DJ is really concerned about there being empty seats then tell him he can feel free to pass up on a chair for the evening.
If guests can’t get seats then I think they’ll be more inclined to get tired feet and leave early than anything else.
Post # 6
@The_Future_KB: That’s bullshit lol! EVERY guests deserves a seat. Pictures have nothing to do with it. You don’t host a wedding, with guests, just for the pictures. This guy is a loon.
Post # 7
as a guest i would be insulted if i were invited to a wedding but not offered a seat… This dude sounds whack…
Post # 8
@The_Future_KB: TERRIBLE idea. I’ve seen places clear chairs and tables after dinner leaving just a few cruisers and chairs around to make more room but I wouldn’t be happy AT ALL if I didn’t have a chair for dinner. I’m assuming I need an extra table just in case someone unexpected shows at the last minute
Post # 9
It depends on what type of dinner you are serving. If it’s a sit-down, then you definitely a chair for every person. If it is hors-d’oeuvres, then usually you can do less, since the point of those receptions is mingling and movement between stations, etc.
That said…I am doing heavy hors-d’oeuvres, and will probably still have a seat for everyone, even though my venue recommends only 60%.
Post # 10
@The_Future_KB: Bad idea.
Just ask yourself, would you want to be at a wedding fighting for a seat all night?
Post # 11
I’ve heard the idea brought up on WB before but it’s almost always shot down. If I didn’t have a chair I wouldn’t be mingling. I would be standing in the corner trying to balance my plate and drink and keeping an eagle eye out for someone to get out of their chair.
Post # 12
@The_Future_KB: We had seating for about 60 indoors (there was more seating on the patio outside) and it worked great, however we also didn’t serve a meal (heavy hors d’œuvres). If you are serving a meal, you really need to have somewhere for each guest to sit and enjoy it.
Post # 13
@The_Future_KB: Don’t do it! I went to a wedding that didn’t have enough seating for guests…bad idea. The bride was going for more of a “party” atmosphere, but it didn’t go over well, especially since the crowd was NOT a younger one.
Post # 14
That sounds like a terrible idea. Everyone will want/need a chair at some point during the night. If there’s any concern about empty seats in photos or guests not dancing, why not move some of the chairs to the side after dinner when people have moved to the dance floor? Even so, I don’t think it’s a big deal if some people prefer to sit down or if there are some empty chairs in pictures.
Post # 15
@The_Future_KB: Well that sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. Guests won’t notice a few empty chairs when they’re up and about, but they will notice no empty chairs when they want to sit down after dancing. Shortage of chairs leads to playing musical chairs!
Post # 16
Does your DJ think you’re planning a school dance? If I went to a wedding where I had to play musical chairs in order to sit down, I’d think the hosts were awful.