(Closed) Less than 3 weeks and guests dropping like flies

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: How should I handle this?
    Scream bloody murder and throw something that will break. : (2 votes)
    3 %
    Turn into Bridezilla and rant to the next 10 people I see. : (1 votes)
    1 %
    Have some wine. : (32 votes)
    41 %
    Just cry it out. : (6 votes)
    8 %
    Go to the spa and relax. : (18 votes)
    23 %
    Watch a movie and brood. : (1 votes)
    1 %
    Wine and tears. You can't have one without the other, like Tom & Kat--- er--- wine and tears. : (18 votes)
    23 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1006 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’m sorry this is happening 🙁

    On the plus side, you’ll save a little money and at least they are telling you now instead of not showing up! I had 5 no shows and 4 people drop out after we already paid for everything so yeah, thats 9 people we paid for that weren’t there.

    Post # 4
    Member
    2876 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @takemyhand:  i think its really disappointing, and rather than try to be brave i nominate being really upset and crying over it for a bit, and *then* trying to see the bright side of things

    The most important thing is you’re marrying you’re mr right and its going to be a special day regardless. but for me personally, i can see the bright side of things better after ive allowed myself to really ‘feel my feelings’ so to speak. does that make sense? if i try not to get upset the negative feelings last a lot longer than if i just get them out there, and defnitely talking to people helps

    youre going to look fabulous and have a blast! dont let it get you down.x

    Post # 6
    Member
    2282 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    This was so hard for me! 2 weeks before the wedding, I gave our venue/caterer a final head count of 70. By the wedding, I figure we were down to something like 58 or 60. I was SO upset. I got over it, for the most part, and was able to focus on people who went to enormous trouble to be there, but there were a few who dropped out towards the end that I didn’t think had iron-clad excuses, and I’m not sure how to feel about it. 

    Do focus on the people who are coming, though. It helps tremendously when you’re hurt by those who aren’t. I bet you’ve got people would move heaven and earth to be at your wedding – concentrate your energy on those 🙂

    Post # 7
    Member
    5664 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    This would really disappoint me too. Don’t worry it’s allowed!

     

    But yeah on the bright side I’d way rather this than pay for no shows! At least they’re being honest?

    Post # 8
    Member
    2282 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    ps – I wanted to vote for wine and crying. Because I think they go well together. But your poll wouldn’t let me, so I went for the crying.

    But I still think the wine is an important part of the process.

    Post # 9
    Member
    989 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Wine!  (And whine!)

    That’s such a bummer OP. 🙁

    Post # 11
    Member
    7175 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    That sucks – I’m sorry.  But, I PROMISE YOU – you will have the most special time with people who will be there.  

    They better have some damn good excuses!  That’s just mean to RSVP yet and the bail at the last minute!!

    …and, definitely, wine.  Lots and lots of wine.

    Post # 12
    Member
    3627 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’m sorry to hear this. We are paying for extra meals for guests that can’t make after all and it sucks! All I know is now I’m getting some very well fed vendors! All you can do is apparently relax, down a few cocktails, and know that the people who are attending are happy to be there for you.

    Post # 13
    Member
    1896 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    At the end of the day- YOUR GOING TO BE MARRIED TO YOUR LOVE- to me thats all that matters. And the people that are going to be there, are the ones who (in my eyes) are true. Just relax, have some ice cream, and let things fall into place.. in the end, its gonna be okaySmile

    Post # 14
    Member
    2282 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @takemyhand:  Yay for wine and tears! 

    Your little verbal picture is a perfect description of me at several moments in my last couple of weeks. For some reason, the men who love us do seem to find it endearing. 

    Post # 15
    Member
    1307 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    That’s sucky of them. I would be upset for sure, and have a few drinks (and cry).

    After your wine-and-tear-fest try to look on the bright side! If you already paid for the food, maybe you can get apps instead of plates? Or maybe you can use the $$$ on drinks from the bar instead of the food (my venue has a food/drink price minimum, but not a guest minimum…..they don’t care if you rack up a $7,000 bill on just plated food, plates and apps, or even JUST drinks and cake LOL)

    Post # 16
    Member
    2876 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @takemyhand:  i went for wine and tears! combined with a big heart to heart with either best friend or fiance!

     

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