(Closed) Less than 3 weeks and guests dropping like flies

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: How should I handle this?

    Scream bloody murder and throw something that will break.

    Turn into Bridezilla and rant to the next 10 people I see.

    Have some wine.

    Just cry it out.

    Go to the spa and relax.

    Watch a movie and brood.

    Wine and tears. You can't have one without the other, like Tom & Kat--- er--- wine and tears.

  • Post # 17
    63 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    we are also having 50 people, and was so worried that people weren’t gonna come, but hey, save on money 🙂 

    Post # 18
    218 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Don’t worry about it!  You don’t need a lot of people. I’ve been to a wedding where the bride didn’t have a single friend there, and the only people under the age of 40 were the rabbi and about 7 of the grooms friends and their SOs.  And it was so fun!!  Everyone danced and had a great time, and we got to actually hang out with the bride and groom, since there were so few of us.  It really will be fine, and your guests will still have fun. I promise. 

    Post # 19
    2692 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    That sucks and I would be upset too but life happens.  Not sure why people wouldn’t go to a wedding they can go to (live locally, no other super important obligations, etc).  I am so there (free food and dancing AND cake! What is NOT to love).  But I get that stuff happens.  Doesn’t mean some of those people dont still love you. But I’d still be super upset non the less.  Hugs.

    Post # 20
    1042 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Try to be happy that people are letting you know. I had about 10 friends RSVP ‘yes’ and just not bother showing up. One couple came to the ceremony, and told me they weren’t coming to the reception, because they decided to go do some touristy things since they were from out of town. Gee, thanks! Glad I already paid for your dinner, and have a place setting for you.

    Some have apologized profusely, others I have not heard from since the wedding. I would have been eternally grateful had anyone at least had the courtesy to tell me before.


    Yeah, it sucks, but could be worse.

    (drink some wine and remember you will be celebrating with some of the most important people to you. Besides, it’s less people you have to socialize with, so you can spend more time with the ones who are there).


    Post # 21
    1006 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’m going to use this thread as a confession.. I had one friend from college who pretty much begged me for an invite. She RSVP’d yes and then the night before the wedding I was laying in bed checking facebook and saw her posting about her weekend plans (which had nothing to do with traveling to another state for my wedding!). I played dumb and posted on her wall and asked when she was getting into town. She gave me some stupid excuse about her flight being cancelled. (which I received the morning of the wedding).

    I’ve been stewing about this and decided to unfriend her on facebook. GASP! I never do stuff like that but I did it and it felt good. Facebook revenge! And wine.. lots of wine.

    Post # 23
    2353 posts
    Buzzing bee

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    @takemyhand:  OMG must watch that movie. Now I want to watch it again.

    Post # 24
    100 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’m so sorry, I know it really hurts when the people you want to be there, won’t be at your wedding.  We had an awful lot of no shows at our wedding too, we had 3 completely empty tables, I would venture that out of the 145 people we thought would come, we probably only had 100-120 max show up.  Many of those did RSVP yes and either just had things come up or just didn’t show up day of.  We even had two entire families of 5 just not show up even after they replied.  It’s frustrating yes, but don’t let it get you down, because even though i’m sad they didn’t make it, I still had all of the other people who did and put forth the time and effort it took to make it to my wedding and celebrate it with us.  Do I remember the people who didn’t come, yes, but am I still sad they didn’t, a little, but I still think I had the best wedding ever as well as the best family and friends ever.  My true friends and family made it to support me and were there for me, minus a few major health problems which were unavoidable.   

    Post # 25
    611 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

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    @scadadle15:  what an asshole that girl was!

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    @takemyhand:  it totally stinks, but I think PP’s are right–when the day comes, you will have a wonderful time with everyone who was able to join you. And until then I am on board with the plan for wine!

    Post # 26
    1413 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

    Just think of who you want to see most on that day. I’m sure it’s your FH. As long as he shows up, you’re golden.

    Post # 27
    3172 posts
    Sugar bee

    I’m so sorry 🙁 I voted for go to the spa but if I could vote for more than one I would also vote for you to have some wine

    Post # 28
    3172 posts
    Sugar bee

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    @ProfessorGirl:  I love that picture. My sister and I always quote it 🙂

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