Post # 1
We’ve been together nearly four and a half years, engaged for a year exactly this week and the wedding is in less than a month.
Planning and paying for this wedding has stretched us physically and emotionally and we’ve had wedding-induced fights that we’ve never had in our relationship before.
This week I made all the final payments for everything and now it’s done. It’s all paid for. My bank account looks, well pathetic now all the savings from our hard work- and contributions from loved ones has gone. Aside from small things like buying a new shirt for him and getting new shoes for me, we are there.
The trouble is, I’m feeling so blah about it all now. I keep trying to find something that will ignite the excitement in me again but nothing does. Not watching Wedding themed films, doing the place names or writing our wedding music list. I’ve got to a point where I don’t even have the energy to feign interest in any DIY projects that I could start. I’m now AVOIDING wedding related stuff.
I LOVE my fiance and being with him is all I want. My most cherished time I have in my life is days like this, chilled Sundays, just the 2 of us reading the papers, watching tv and hanging out. It costs next to nothing, the amount of money we’ve spent on this wedding doesn’t excite me, it makes me feel sick and ashamed that we could have done a lot of different things with this money but all due to MY initial push and desire to have the wedding I’ve dreamed of since I first met him and realised I wanted to marry him.
I absolutely want to be married to him and to be his wife, but I’m worried that after all this, I’m not going to see my wedding day as an expense that was worth it, when we could have done this with a trip to the registry office and a celebration afterwards.
The reason I’m posting is mainly because I’m hoping someone else has felt this pre-wedding and can tell me that afterwards the expense of it all WAS worth it and I just need the day to come so I can see that.
Post # 3
I had that too. I would take a planning vacation for a few days. Do nothing wedding related and do other things. Focus on yourself and FH. That is what got me out of my funk. Good luck
Post # 4
I felt exactly the same way once everything was booked and done. Its like as soon as everything is ready to go, its still a while to go till the actual day of the wedding and so if you were excited every single day from now till then,youd be exhausted!
Dont worry when it gets a lot closer to the day and the plans youve made start coming into action your excitement will peak!
By The Way I didnt even get excited on the day,until I put on my dress, then I went into serious hyper mode!
Post # 5
I started to feel a bit this way towards the wedding day. Not 100% your feelings, but I was starting to freak out a bit about how much we spent. The day after the wedding, DH and I were talking about what an amazing day it was and how all my planning (which towards the end, I just didn’t care anymore to add any new DIY projects) paid off. We did not regret a single penny. It was a beautiful wedding that went without a hitch and everyone had an awesome time. We’d do it all over again.
Just relax, take some time off wedding planning and enjoy the days. You’ll get back into wanting to do a few wedding things here and there. The day is very close and just think that you’ll finally be done with it all and married to your best friend! 🙂
Post # 6
I’m just over six months away from my wedding, and I worry that I’m going to feel like you. Heck, I kind of already do. I actually wanted to elope, but my fiance insisted that he couldn’t get married without his family and friends, so I gave in. My mother and fiance are both being very helpful with the planning, but I’m so sick of vendors not calling me back or replying to e-mails.
I will say, though, when I actually picture us getting married in my mind(me in my dress, which I love, and him in his fancy three-piece suit), I get chills and can’t help but smile. So I guess my advice would be to just find something small like that to look forward to.
I truly wish you the best of luck and hope that you can find a way to enjoy the rest of the time leading up the wedding and the wedding itself.
Post # 7
I just wanted to comment and let you know that you are not alone. We have a lot of time before we get married but I’m already upset about how much money we are spending on this that I kind of want to elope as well. So don’t feel like your the only one!
I’m sure that after all the planning and stress once you see your day unfold in front of you, you will without a doubt enjoy it and find it all worth it!
Good Luck and I hope you have a fantastic day!