(Closed) Less than enthusiastic bridal shower. Should I feel a little sad?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Is it weird that no one offered and I had to make my own ribbon bouquet?
    yes, someone should have done it for me : (25 votes)
    42 %
    no, making your own is normal : (34 votes)
    58 %
  • Post # 3
    1318 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @RobotBabooshka:  Honestly, I’ve never heard of making a bouquet out of the ribbons, but it seems like a neat idea. I wouldn’t be too upset, remember you have another one coming up.

    Post # 4
    4803 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I don’t even know what a ribbon bouquet is, and I had a bridal shower. I think you’re majorly setting yourself up to be disappointed if it can happen that easily.

    Post # 5
    999 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I think you set high expectations. I think you had a great bridal shower. People came and brought you gifts Smile

    Post # 6
    80 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    In my experience someone has always made one for the bride while she was opening gifts. But I don’t think this is done everywhere (as evidenced by some of the responses here). I wouldn’t worry about it too much. 

    Post # 7
    1401 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I would focus on the fact that you had a great shower and got gifts. Could you get your bridesmaids together to do it? I just had a shower back home in California (I now live in Colorado) and only 1 of my friends showed up…. I didn’t let that ruin my shower and enjoyed the fact that my family and my friend came. I didn’t get a ribbon bouquet. I might get one at my Colorado shower. But I encourage you to focus on that someone threw you a shower and you enjoyed yourself.

    Post # 8
    2324 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Maybe suggest that a riobbon bouquet would be a neat idea!

    Post # 9
    1734 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @RobotBabooshka:  I would have been kind of bummed too. This is a big part of showers that I’ve been to — maybe your ladies are from cultures that don’t do this? And maybe your mom was distracted? Regardless, I’m sure your bouquet looks great. 🙂

    Post # 10
    4371 posts
    Honey bee

    You had a great shower, it seems silly to dwell on this one little thing. If you wanted one then, you should have mentioned it at the time. Or the next time you have your shower.

    Post # 11
    2031 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I’ve never seen the bride make her own ribbon bouquet, usually a bridesmaid or relative takes care of it.  Usually, even though the bride knows it’s happening, it’s done ‘secretly’ and then presented to her after the fact…she doesn’t really see it during.   I’m sorry that no one did it for you, that would make me sad too.  If I was there, even if I didn’t know you I would have done it if no one else did!!  Maybe for the shower this week one of your bridesmaids will do it, maybe no one thought about it because it wasn’t your ‘real’ shower?  

    *for those Bees who don’t know of this tradition, you typically make a bouquet out of the ribbons and bows from the shower, and the bride uses this as her bouquet for the rehearsal.  Usually you take a picture at the shower of the bride wearing it like a hat too, cheesy and silly but cute.*

    Post # 12
    3375 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Sorry but no one knew to do this for me either!

    I just don’t think FI’s family knew about the tradition. At least I was able to make mine just as pretty as I wanted.

    Post # 13
    914 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I think you shouldn’t feel sad. You should feel loved and know that these people came to see you, regardless of traditional practices. I have seen the ribbon bouqet made by both bridal party members and the bride herself. I would want to make my own because I am insane and would want it my way lol.

    Post # 14
    258 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    1) I have never heard of a ribbon bouquet.  I attended 4 bridal showers this year so far (all in the northeast) and didn’t see it done there either.

    2) The next shower seems like your main shower as it was planned further in advance.  This one seems like a nice gesture.  I wouldn’t feel put out by the fact you got an extra party and extra gifts.  🙂  It sounds like a nice bonus and you’ll probably do a ribbon bouquet at your next shower if they are customary where you live.  What would you do with 2 ribbon bouquets anyway?  🙂

    I say appreciate it for all the extra good and let go of the little thing.  For my shower I wasn’t allowed to have my husbands family invited due to one aunt (We were not allowed to invite her and if we couldn’t invite her, we couldn’t invite any of his aunts or extended family out of fairness- it was weird), and so not only was it smaller, there was some family awkwardness.  Not to mention I was cleaning up the rest of the weekend on my own.  But everyone had a great time and I saw some people I hadn’t seen in a while.  It was great!

    Post # 15
    317 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I had two showers–one in the South and one in the Northeast and no one made me a ribbon bouquet. I had never heard of this tradition, but it sounds really cute! Neither of my showers included much wedding talk or any wedding games or activities either.


    Post # 16
    2692 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    No one does this here so I already planned to make my own. No bid D.  I think you just need to focus on the positives (you did get a shower where so many brides don’t).  Maybe at your ‘main’ shower, someone will make one for you so then you can have 2.

    I do understand how you feel when things don’t live up to your expectations though… that is why I have none for my shower LOL>

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