(Closed) less than ideal proposal

posted 6 years ago in Proposals
Post # 47
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6372 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

@prahajess:  This exactly.

OP, she’s lucky to have you and should be grateful for that.  There’s nothing here to fix.

Post # 48
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1837 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We haven’t told any friends, but she wants me to call both of our parents, and tell them the proposal didn’t count and the real one is coming when her actual ring is done

What??? that is 100% ridiculous and your proposal sounded fine to me. you did your best to make it special for her and she is being pretty awful about it.

Post # 49
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633 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Why would you have to do it again? Maybe work with her to plan an engagement party or something. I don’t live in the world where women need bragging rights for how dramatic their proposal was. “Pshaw, your fiancé got down on one knee? Mine got down on both!” Your story IS romantic. She’s your fiancee now. Don’t play into the insecurity you’re feeling, this is a time for celebration!

Post # 50
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3638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@oneofthesethings:  No, you do not get “unengaged”, he would simply get down on one knee with the finished ring and ask her again. He can ask her to marry him as many times as he wants. Why not? It only matters what the two of them think about it. People who renew their vows don’t get divorced first. 

Post # 51
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516 posts
Busy bee

My fiance’ told me he would propose several times and then I could decide which one was the best story to tell my friends and family.  haha

Seriously, way too much emphasis placed on the proposal rather than what it signifies.  Too many expectations are placed on our loved ones instead of being in the moment and enjoying your moment for what it is.  I for one would love to tell that story because it’s so funny!  The effort and care to do it right is all that matters, even if it didn’t pan out the way you both had hoped.

Do it again if you want to–I agree there’s nothing wrong with that!  No need to “cancel” the first one, though, because that was the real one!  🙂

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