Less than three weeks out, missing RSVPS??

posted 1 year ago in Guests
Post # 2
5920 posts
Bee Keeper

Whens your deadline? I wouldn’t remind people until after the deadline. 

Then, a day or two after the deadline:

“hi Uncle joe, its msmeow calling to confirm your’s and Aunt Marys attendance to my wedding on June 20th. If I don’t hear from you by Friday we will mark you as a NO. Thanks and have a great day” 

Post # 3
4287 posts
Honey bee

When is your RSVP deadline?  Give it a day or two after that to allow for ones that got mailed the day of the deadline and then start making calls.

That’s pretty much par for the course for any hosted event.  You’ll get the people who reply the minute they get the invite, and then you get everyone else who is checking on whether the date works or waiting on confirmation of a babysitter or just plain forgets making a mad dash at the end with very little in between.

Post # 4
13484 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

When was your RSVP deadline?  I started calling (or our mothers did..) a couple of days after that.   We only had a handful to chase down though so it wasn’t a heavy lift.

Post # 5
141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

We had a bunch missing, and just started texting or messaging people or calling them, and if we had heard they weren’t coming we went ahead and marked them as a no, even if we had not been able to reach them (mostly my family out of the continental US which I knew they don’t have the money to attend)

Post # 6
9097 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i had a handful that we called/texted the day after the deadline.


Post # 8
1762 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I’d contact them all now if you don’t have a deadline. Our deadline was six weeks from our wedding. Some people are slack and don’t rsvp as they presume you know they’re coming!

Post # 9
4287 posts
Honey bee

Well, generally speaking, your RSVP deadline SHOULD have been about a week (maybe 10 days) before your caterer needs final hard numbers to allow calling for stragglers.  Most caterers don’t need that until about 72 hours before, some require a week before.  So I would figure out what day that would have been, wait a day after that, and then just call.  But since you didn’t didn’t give an RSVP deadline, make sure you phrase it more like “I’m so sorry I didn’t put a deadline on the invites – my caterer needs numbers by X day…”



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