Post # 1
I’m starting to stress…we only have 19 days to go and we’re still missing 61 RSVPs. The plan is to start texting/calling/emailing people to see if they’re coming but is this normal? When did you guys start getting RSVP’s? What if no one comes to our wedding? It seemed like right after we went out invites we got a lot of guest list action, like a new RSVP every other day or at least a couple per week, and now…radio silence. Is it rude to text people and remind them that they haven’t RSVPd or to inquire about it?
Post # 2
Whens your deadline? I wouldn’t remind people until after the deadline.
Then, a day or two after the deadline:
“hi Uncle joe, its msmeow calling to confirm your’s and Aunt Marys attendance to my wedding on June 20th. If I don’t hear from you by Friday we will mark you as a NO. Thanks and have a great day”
Post # 3
When is your RSVP deadline? Give it a day or two after that to allow for ones that got mailed the day of the deadline and then start making calls.
That’s pretty much par for the course for any hosted event. You’ll get the people who reply the minute they get the invite, and then you get everyone else who is checking on whether the date works or waiting on confirmation of a babysitter or just plain forgets making a mad dash at the end with very little in between.
Post # 4
When was your RSVP deadline? I started calling (or our mothers did..) a couple of days after that. We only had a handful to chase down though so it wasn’t a heavy lift.
Post # 5
We had a bunch missing, and just started texting or messaging people or calling them, and if we had heard they weren’t coming we went ahead and marked them as a no, even if we had not been able to reach them (mostly my family out of the continental US which I knew they don’t have the money to attend)
Post # 6
i had a handful that we called/texted the day after the deadline.
Post # 7
So I am stupid and printed our invites, and realized I forgot to put a deadline. We do have vendors that are flexible and can modify things up until a few days beforehand though, so that makes me feel better but I am so annoyed with myself. I’ve thought about adding something about it on the website but at this point I feel like it’s a little late. Our deadline probably would have been last week, right at the three week point, so I have started just mentioning it to people when I see them in person and I’ve asked Fi to do the same for coworkers and people like that. It’s comforting to know that this is pretty normal though…hopefully we get a bigger turn out than 45 people though, lol.
Post # 8
I’d contact them all now if you don’t have a deadline. Our deadline was six weeks from our wedding. Some people are slack and don’t rsvp as they presume you know they’re coming!
Post # 9
Well, generally speaking, your RSVP deadline SHOULD have been about a week (maybe 10 days) before your caterer needs final hard numbers to allow calling for stragglers. Most caterers don’t need that until about 72 hours before, some require a week before. So I would figure out what day that would have been, wait a day after that, and then just call. But since you didn’t didn’t give an RSVP deadline, make sure you phrase it more like “I’m so sorry I didn’t put a deadline on the invites – my caterer needs numbers by X day…”