(Closed) Lesson Learned: Choose your MOH carefully!!!

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Im so sorry to hear that this is going on for you.


i intinally had a similar issue with my future Mother in Law… I am 6 years older than my finacee (32 and 26) and she is not only her son(only child) but he has been the man in her life for most of her life. When we were starting to date, she ALWAYS wanted to go, she always wanted to make us feel bad that she would be home alone.  Sometimes I didnt mind it because all dates are not intimate but there were a few times either one of us didnt want her to go or didnt have the heart to tell her that she could not go.


The breaking point for us was that we planned a birthday dinner for her at an Italian Restaurant. It was a nice dinner except it was February in Los Angeles , which is usually nice, but it was very cold that night so you could tell that she was cold so we made the best of it as much as we could. She texted me a day later and told he how happy she was that we planned it and how much fun she had and it made me feel good that we did something for her….However she complained to my fiancee how we didnt do her birthday right, how she felt rushed, how cold it was outside and that she was going to redo her own birthday her way…. Needless to say we were both pissed off.

I did my best to avoid her for a whole week because I was just upset and my feelings were hurt. When she finally saw me again, she had a fake smile on her face as if she was happy to see me and I was still upset. She asked my fiancee what was wrong and he told her that he told me what she said. She says, Why did you tell her that? He said because she needs to know what you said and I wont keep anything from her. he finally lost it and told her that this was unfair, and ridicilous. Him telling her and her hearing it from him gave her a different outlook on the way things are and need to be.

Since then, the relationship hs been better, things have been much easier and I think it was because she heard it from him. I think you Maid/Matron of Honor needs to hear from your Fiancee that the day is about you 2 and not all of America.

Have you talked to your fiancee about it?


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