- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
I’m basically using this as a place to vent since I have exhausted all of my other resources. I just want to know if other brides ever have this same issue.
I have already been married once before (it was very short and sweet) so having the big white dream wedding wasn’t something I was really going for. However, my fiance had a different opinion. I want him to be happy and I want him to enjoy everythign with me so from the beginning I have kind of let him have the reins with alot of the decision making. The most important thing for me is just to marry the man of my dreams, I’m not really concerned with all of the other details (dress colors, flowers, centerpieces, etc.). So with that being said I really struggled with who to ask to be my bridesmaids. I felt that it would be realyl awkward if I were to ask the same girls that were in my previous wedding, so I really had to give this one some thought. Personally I didn’t care if we had any attendants or not. I thought it would be easier if we didn’t but my fiance has had his picked out for so many years now and he really didn’t want to give that up. So of course I complied and made my selections. We each have 4 attendants. I have one bridesmaid that is a longtime friend of mine. We have known each other since we were born and our families are also great friends. Another bridesmaid is actually more of a friend of the groom but through our relationship we have become pretty good friends as well. The other bridesmaid is actually a “bridesman”. He is my bestest friend from college (no he’s not gay) and we have kept in touch ever since. He’s one of those that way back when we tried to date but nothing ever felt right. I think it lasted for a total of a week. Anyways, last but not least (you can judge that later) is my maid of honor. I know you are supposed to pick your sister or your BFF from whenever but I had already used those up in my previous wedding and my sister is 13 years older than me and we’re not that close. So low and behold I chose my fiance’s sister. Now before we go any further let me tell you that she’s great. I really do like her and we do hang out all the time. Now with that let me say that I have no choice but to like her because she’s always around! She is obsessed with her brother!!! I’m convinced. She lives 5 mins down the road from us and is always coming over or calling. We’ve had several ‘discussions’ about how Josh is choosing to start his own family now and how she might not be #1 in is life anymore. Those didn’t always go so well. Needless to say she is in therapy and trying to move on.
Now that you have the background, getting on to my issues about my Maid/Matron of Honor. She has taken over everything! She planned a great bridal shower and bachlorette party however she invited several of ‘her’ friends. I had probably met them once and felt incredibly awkward that they were sharing special moments with me and my family. Now her father has put her in charge of the rehearsal dinner and its a mess. She just sent me a list today and asked that I had any of my family to it that I would like invited. The list is already 30 people deep. Oh and did I mention, that we only have 60 people coming to the whole wedding!?!?!?! I just feel like its getting out of hand and I can almost not wait until this whole stupid thing is over with. Yes I said stupid. I feel like everything we are doing for the wedding is to accomodate all of the guests. When did weddings stop being about the bride and groom and all about the guests?
So that’s me venting. I’m just trying to see if anyother brides are having issues wtih family and/or bridal party members. The wedding is just 1 month away and I hate the idea that I’m not even sure if I’m excited for it to happen.