Post # 1
I am not a window shopper. When I shop it is because I have something in mind. Although 95% of my clothes are purchased from brick & mortar stores, I do 80% of my research online. With over 20 years of shopping experience (my Mom allowed me to start picking out my own clothes at age 10), I realized today at a bridal salon that eventhough I am confident in my ability to pick-out cute clothes, I am terrible at picking clothes for my body-type, skin color, lifestyle, etc. This is evidenced by the number of clothes in my closet with the tags still on it. Or by the dresses and tops I’ve worn once and never intend to wear again.
Bridal dress shopping has brought this to light and had it not been for my current struggles to find THE ONE, I don’t think I would have ever realized it. I mean when else will I get a chance to wear a dress that everyone will look at. I’m not an actress so my chance of walking a Hollywood red carpet is slim to none. I’m far from a model so runway walking is also non-existent.
At my wedding I would like people to tell me more than just “beautiful dress” because I already know I am good at picking out cute dresses. What I want to hear is that I’ve done a great job picking one out just for me.
What else have you learned about yourself while bridal dress shopping?
Post # 3
I am so bad at picking “a” dress. I always waffle between several… I am very tiny waisted but have larger breasts so nothing really fits properly. That is one main reason I decided to make my own dress this time. I get what I want and know that it will fit, if it don’t, I have no one to blame but myself…
Post # 4
I have learned that I hate being called dear, darling, honey, or “girl” (that was a really annoying salesperson) That I need to speak up more than I normally do to make my opinions heard.
To ask about the price first.
and not be afraid to say I want something changed!
Post # 5
@fitzly: Good point about the price! Tags are usually the first thing I look at when clothes shopping but bridal dress shopping is quite different.
Post # 6
I learnt that once you narrow your options down to a couple of front runners, do NOT show all the women in your office! My workmates hated the dress I loved and took all the fun out of wearing the other dress. I went looking again with my Mum and bought a completely different dress 🙂 And now I’m not giving them the chance to have an opinion!
Post # 7
I’ve learned that some mothers are not “wedding mothers.”
Not all mothers have something to say – whether it is praise, concerns, criticism, etc. And this doesn’t specifically apply to dress shopping, but all aspects of the wedding process. My mom is extremely shy (I’m just about the polar opposite) and she was SILENT during most of my dress shopping experience. I don’t know why, but I was somehow hoping that she’d pipe up and tell me everything she loved/didn’t love and I was really disappointed when that, of course, did not happen.
On top of that, I was very nervous in general when I was trying on dresses for the first time, so I was hoping for some approval of whether or not I was heading in the right direction. Good thing that I had a bridesmaid and my future-MIL with me (who is adorable and was very helpful during the process) to balance things out between my mom.
Overall, it is very important to have people go with you that care about what you want and are thinking in terms of what would work best for you, not their specific taste. Also, I think it is a good idea to try on a wide variety of dresses to make sure that you’ve found the perfect style for your body and taste.
Post # 8
@Kemma – something very similar happened to me, but I didn’t want to let someone’s ideas influence my dress decision so stuck to the dress I loved, and when it came in I immediately knew it was the one, regardless of other people’s opinions. Most people like the very plain, simple styles, as they are safe and classic, but you have to figure out what you like yourself – not everyone looks right in a simple dress.
I discovered that the dress chooses you as much as you choose your dress – and that it’s a personality thing more than anyhting else…
Also, that I value good service much more than I ever appreciated. I went to several boutiques where the staff were rude or just indifferent, and that made me immediately doubt their stock. I think Gene Simmons put it perfectly: You’re buying the salesman, not the vacuum cleaner.
Post # 9
1- It’s been said before, but choose a dress that reflects your personal style. My everyday clothes are tailored and classic, better quality but fewer of them. My first two dresses never made me happy because the quality wasn’t there.
2 – Go shopping on your own first. If I had done a lot of trying on before my mother came to visit, I would have made a better choice the first time. I waited until she came, then made a hasty choice because I felt pressured to buy. Internet research is a great tool, but you really have to try them on to know what you want.
3 – Consider other sources. There are so many great websites out there for used or never worn dresses. You can get a never-worn designer dress at a fraction of the price.