(Closed) Let a man wait because he made you wait? To delay or not to delay?

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 33
184 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My number one regret is telling my husband how I felt before getting engaged. I say this because being surprised was VERY important to me and I wasn’t at all. I knew it was coming and I can’t tell you how upset that has made me. I really wish I had let him take his time and actually been able to surprise me.

Post # 34
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Aoibhinn888:  Wow, I am really shocked at some of the “advice” you are getting on here from other bee’s. Surprisingly unsupportive to say the least. I honestly believe that in that moment of your SO proposing that you wont hesitate with saying yes. Its obvious that its all you’ve wanted for years, so even though its fun to imagine getting back at our butthead bf’s for dragging things out so long, you wont do this because its not whats in your heart. Right now I totally understand your frustration and even the anger I can read in your post. 

Waiting, and waiting with no light at the end of the tunnel definitely kills the romance. My suggestion is to check in with him about where you guys are at with this. Just ask him, “I don’t want to know any details, but are you in the middle of planning our engagement? I am not trying to pressure you, I just wanted to check in to see if its okay for me to start getting excited yet”. Something along those lines, and in a nice tone of voice I think would be okay. It is understandable for you to start feeling resentful when there is no (seemingly) good reason why your man is taking so long. 

I envy women who’s SO’s are taking so long because they have to budget and save up for a ring. Mine could purchase a ring at any time and still somehow doesn’t propose. It makes one wonder, why? and it begs the question, is it because he doesn’t want to marry me? 


I wish my man had a good excuse :0( 

Post # 35
544 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’d do it. But i’m spiteful and i hate waiting when he full on knows how i feel and there’s no reason to procrastinate.

Post # 36
9071 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

An eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind.

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