Post # 1
Tonight, a random guy knocked on the door & asked if he could use our phone because his dad dropped him off & hadn’t come back yet. He was probably late 20s- early 30s & spoke funny & gave me a kinda creepy feeling. I said we didn’t have a house phone (true) & my cell phone was dead (lie that just kinda came out). My phone’s been stolen before & our neighborhood isn’t that great, so I didn’t want him running off with it/ dropping it & didn’t want to say “I don’t trust you” (real reason I wouldn’t let him use it) & most of all, I didn’t want him in my house. However, I feel horrible & it was freezing outside & I kinda feel like a jerk.
Would you let a stranger use your cell phone?
Post # 3
It depends, if i did not get the creepy feeling then yes, but I am an overly trusting fool. However, if your gut is telling you no, then NO is the right way to go.
Post # 4
This is a tough situation. My sympathetic side would want to say yes and let the stranger use my phone because I feel we should help each other out if possible BUT that sounds creepy! My survival instinct wants to say NO! You never know what malicious thing people are thinking.
I have let a stranger use my cell at work. Some teen who couldn’t find his mom or dad so I let him use my cell phone but that was a work, it’s more of a controlled situation.
Post # 5
If someone gives me the creeps, I don’t let them stick around at all. The circumstances would have to be dire for me to consider it. For example, someone who is clearly in trouble I likely would not have any issues letting them use it for emergency purposes, and you make sure they don’t run off with it. A random stranger wanting to make a general call, no.
Post # 6
if he needed to come into my house I would say no, unless my Fiance or both my parents were at the house..
I’ve let a stranger use my cell phone at mcdonald’s before and I was scared he’d run away with it, it was when I first got my new iphone so i treated it like a baby and he was a teen with a bunch of friends .. I was so happy when he gave it back.. haha looking back on it i would’ve given him quarters to use the pay phone there..
Post # 7
It honestly depends. I wouldn’t do it if they knocked on my door, but I also probably wouldn’t open my door for a stranger if I was home alone (probably paranoia related to my advocacy work!). If it was a student of mine I’d let them, b/c they already all have my cell phone number anyway! Also the office phone is screwy. My phone is crappy (partner is getting me a new phone for my birthday in a few weeks!! yay!!) so I wouldn’t really worry about someone stealing it.
Post # 8
It depends on the situation. I don’t think it’s something you ‘have’ to do, but if you feel comfortable at the time, then fine. I’ve let someone use mine when LRT (public transportation) system wasn’t working properly and there was a huge delay. She offered to pay me (it was a while ago when pay as you go was more common), but I didn’t take it.
In your situation, I probably wouldn’t have even opened the door to the guy.
Post # 9
I’ve offered my phone to strangers before, but I can’t recall ever having a stranger ask to use mine. In one situation it was on a street with enough traffic that there would’ve been plenty of witnesses if I had to scream and run or whatever, and the other time it was to a lady with a baby so I figured she wouldn’t be too sketch. The first person needed my phone, the second one did not.
Post # 10
Someone on the train asked me if he could use my phone to call his friend since his friend was picking him up. I hesitated for a second but then I did. He offered me some money to do it. I refused his money. I have plenty of minutes on my plan since I have a lot of rollover minutes, so I agreed.
ETA: I don’t always do this. If I felt like that guy was a creepy and shady, I wouldn’t have done it. We were in a train so I knew he couldn’t just steal and run with it.
Post # 11
Ok so I don’t feel like a complete jerk anymore. Yea, doesn’t help that I watched a scary murder movie last night (thought it was a romantic comedy, boy I was so wrong!) & that’s what I thought in the back of my mind. Darling Husband heard him & said he sounded off.
Post # 12
You have to be careful lending out your cellphone because not only could they steal it, but they possibly could call long distance or order things just by dialing a number and putting it on your bill.
On the other hand, if I felt like they were honest, I’d dial the number and let them use it or pass along their message.
I once asked to use a stranger’s phone because I didn’t have a ride and at the time didn’t have a cellphone… I just wanted to call my mother, but she said no! I had to really work up the courage to ask and I really hate begging so I just gave up on asking anyone else and had to walk 2 miles to the closest pay phone in the hot sun by a super busy road. So yea, if I can help somebody I would. Been there. 😛
Post # 13
I don’t think I’d let some stranger who just knockd on my door use my phone, but I have let people use my phone in public- especially at work. My SO’s dad’s car broke down once, and dunkin’ donuts wouldn’t let him use their phone and there weren’t any pay phones around so he had to rely on the kindness os a stranger.
Post # 14
That’s kinda weird that he came to your door. I can honestly say nothing like that has ever happened to me. If I was in a public place, like a store or mall with lots of people around, I would totally let someone use my phone as long as they don’t look like a serial killer. If someone came to my door and asked, I would probably ask my Fiance to come to the door with me and watch them. He’s 6’5″ and about 325 pounds, so I imagine he wouldn’t try any funny business with him standing there. Haha.
Post # 15
@canthugallcats: in your situation – knocking on your door at home, getting a creepy feeling, and not the best neighborhood – you did the right thing by following your instinct! If your story had been “i let him in my house to use my phone”, i would think you are a little naive! He may have been harmless and that’s why you have that “i’m a jerk” feeling. In fact, odds are he was harmless….but you didn’t know for sure and i think its better to be safe than sorry.
that being said, several years ago, i was waiting for a bus and a guy who looked my age-ish and also a student asked to borrow my phone. i was hesitant as i thought it a weird request, but i had no reason to say no, so i let him. After he was done, we ended up talking the whole bus ride into the city too and i made a friend for a day, so it was actually fun. but that was totally different than what you described!
Post # 16
I have let a stranger use my phone, but this was while I was out shopping. I was fine with it but if I had any reservations like you did, I wouldn’t.