(Closed) Let Me Try This Again

posted 6 years ago in Names
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Thank you for indents. No thank you for this post again. I can’t speak for everyone but this topic has come up enough recently, I’m done. Ready to move on. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Never heard that saying… Neither has google. i commented on your post fairly, considerably and I am doing the same again.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

Again? Tl; sdr

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

I think I understand where you’re coming from, and I also think you’re being judged too harshly. I’m taking my FI’s last name and no one is judging me for it (including OP, which I think is what’s getting lost in translation somehow), and I think OP is just asking for the same level of non-judgement and giving reasoning behind it. I’m sorry people have judged you for it, some people are just shitty

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Le me answer your questions:

why is it still expected that women should change their names?

Becasue things take a hell of a long time to change, but I’d say it’s way more accepted than it was 30 years ago.

How could we impose something on some people but not on others?

Life’s not fair.

So why is it considered OK for her to not have the same name as her children because she took her husband’s name, but it would not have been OK for her to have a different last name than her children for keeping her own name?

Who said it isn’t or is ok? 

The real question is is why the hell do children automatically get the man’s last name?  It sure isn’t becasue he carried it for 9 months in his body.  sigh.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: A very pretty church.

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ToniToni: While I agree, it will win you no friends on these boards… You’re better off posting about people in other threads where some Bees have shared their frustration around people being rude re that Bee not changing their name. Recreating drama seems a bit boring really.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - Winery

It’s definitely a personal choice. I want to keep my name but I also want to add his. Idk why. I just do. LOL BUT I don’t want to go through and change every single legal document I have because I’m lazy. I’ll change my driver’s license but that’s pretty much it, I think. Whenever I write my name, I’ll write it out with his.

I don’t judge anyone who doesn’t want to change their name. Plus, It’s 2015! Who cares!

Whether my neighbor decides to change their name to Willy Wonka, for goodness sakes, or whatever it may be- IT DOESNT INVOLVE ME, THEREFORE IT DOESNT AFFECT ME.

K I’m done. LOL

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Meh. I just never got around to changing my name. It wasn’t a big deal to either of us. It certainly didn’t require an excessive over analysis. 

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Busy bee

Holy mother of repetitive posts. 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Star Spangled Banner Flag House Museum

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morningcoffee:  LMAO!

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