Post # 1
I had a friend text me today asking if she can bring her camera to the wedding and i told her yes so long as she doesn’t get in the way of the photographer. She happily agreed and then told me her oil-field bf can’t come so she wants to bring a friend.
I don’t know this girl, she added me on facebook forever ago, but we’ve never talked. I told her I didn’t know and i’d get back to her, and she told me she didn’t want to come alone.
I don’t know how to reply. It’s not fair of her to say she doesn’t want to come if I don’t let her bring a friend. I’m slightly offended. This isn’t a party. It’s the joining of me and the love of my life. WHY would I want someone there that I don’t know. Am I wrong in wanting to tell her she can’t bring a friend? Help, bees!
Post # 3
I’m stickler for the guest list not being pushed. That being said I had a friend in a similar position, and since she called and asked about it I just let her come, even though she knows a couple of mutual friends at the wedding.
My feeling is if you have the space don’t turn it into a major deal, especially if she doesn’t know that many other people, or if there are a lot of couples going to your wedding because she might get lonely.
Post # 4
If you have space/it wouldn’t affect you much, I would let her bring the friend since she would have been coming with someone anyways.
On the other hand if you don’t want a random person there AND it affects you budget wise, I would tell her that you want her to have fun and be comfortable but you are really trying to make cuts budgetwise and keep the wedding intimate and only wanted close friends.
Post # 5
I’d let her bring a friend as long as the friend is nice (not a lush!) and it won’t upset your budget.
Post # 6
@ohcaptainmycaptain: etiquette says that if you addresses her plus one to her boyfriend specifically, she has no right to swap a friend in. if you just said and guest she has wiggle room
Post # 7
Is she traveling at all? generally you “need” to allow people who travel to bring a guest.
I doubt you’ll have any interaction with her friend. You’ll likely never notice they’re there.
I’d allow it.
Edit: Budget wise, if you’re already budgeting for a +1, whether it’s her boyfriend or a friend, it really won’t matter.
Post # 8
@ohcaptainmycaptain: Does she know anyone else at the wedding? If she does, I’d say no. If she doesn’t, I don’t see the harm in letting her bring her friend, since the alternative is probably her sitting there bored.
Post # 11
ugh… i guess you all are right. I just feel uncomfortable with someone i don’t know getting to sit in on such an important day for us. I’m not even very close to the first friend to begin with. we were good friends a few years back but i haven’t had a REAL conversation with her in ages. i guess i’ll let her bring her friend since she is out-of-town.