(Closed) Let my friend bring a friend to my wedding so she doesn't have to go alone?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m stickler for the guest list not being pushed. That being said I had a friend in a similar position, and since she called and asked about it I just let her come, even though she knows a couple of mutual friends at the wedding. 

My feeling is if you have the space don’t turn it into a major deal, especially if she doesn’t know that many other people, or if there are a lot of couples going to your wedding because she might get lonely.

Post # 4
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526 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

If you have space/it wouldn’t affect you much, I would let her bring the friend since she would have been coming with someone anyways. 

On the other hand if you don’t want a random person there AND it affects you budget wise, I would tell her that you want her to have fun and be comfortable but you are really trying to make cuts budgetwise and keep the wedding intimate and only wanted close friends. 

Post # 5
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4436 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’d let her bring a friend as long as the friend is nice (not a lush!) and it won’t upset your budget.

Post # 6
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188 posts
Blushing bee

@ohcaptainmycaptain:  etiquette says that if you addresses her plus one to her boyfriend specifically, she has no right to swap a friend in. if you just said and guest she has wiggle room

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Is she traveling at all? generally you “need” to allow people who travel to bring a guest.

I doubt you’ll have any interaction with her friend. You’ll likely never notice they’re there.

I’d allow it.

Edit: Budget wise, if you’re already budgeting for a +1, whether it’s her boyfriend or a friend, it really won’t matter.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@ohcaptainmycaptain:  Does she know anyone else at the wedding? If she does, I’d say no. If she doesn’t, I don’t see the harm in letting her bring her friend, since the alternative is probably her sitting there bored.

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