(Closed) Let the countdown begin…anyone else TTC/NTNP starting this New Year's?

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Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@candy11:  Thanks! I’m so excited for you! It’s almost time!

Post # 35
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Worker bee

Hey! Me too!

It was a surprise for the new year. I had told DH that I was ready a long time ago to TTC, but he didn’t want to talk about it cause he was not ready. So I didn’t bring the subject for 2 years and on new years eve, he told me he would like to TTC in 2014… like, that night. I was caught right off guard when he told me. I said something like: “Are you serious? Wait, you should have told me, I’d have take prenatal vitamins… and a lot of sushis too!” But I was so happy that we started BD that night anyway. The next morning I started taking the vitamins and here we are!

It may sound weird, but I hope to have some time to adapt before getting pregnant. 6 months would be ideal for me, but I know I can’t choose and I’ll be happy if it happens before.

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@Tomato22:  Sorry it O didn’t come! A couple of weeks and you’re back on the horse for another go!

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@JacobsMama:  Ow ow honeymoon baby! haha! Best of luck to ya! And congrats on the upcoming wedding! You’re SO close.

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@candy11:  yay for days!

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@Black_bird:  Sometimes DHs surprise you! When we were setting a timeline I was thinking more like Springish and he pulled out January! I was like ‘whoa! really?’ And he said yep, he was ready whenever I was. Well in that case let’s hop to it!! πŸ˜‰

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@candy11:  Nooo, sadly not! I actually got my period 4 days EARLIER thank expected?? Ha, so random. My body was like hey, not only are you not pregnant, but you are not pregnant RIGHT NOW, SO SUCK IT! I was a teeny bit sad but that’s okay, it was early enough in the month that I’ll have another chance in January. πŸ™‚

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

To update:

So far for us, we are not NTNP/TTC yet.  πŸ™ We had agreed on January and I didn’t bring it up again after that thinking that after the holidays we’ll just pull the goalie and be on our way.  

Possible Too Much Information alert…Every time we DTD he stops to put on a condom. (I’m not on BC, so we’ve always used condoms since I quit taking BC).  I’m not sure if it’s just habit of him always doing that, or if he’s still not ready even though he said he was a few months ago.  Either way, I can assume he’s not excited about TTC, because I feel like if he was, he would be thinking about that, and not putting on a condom. 

I’ve had baby fever for a while now, and he’s aware of that.  I just feel like if I bring up the topic again, I will be pressuring him too much.  He says he wants kids, he’s been asking his friends with kids questions, and talking about our future kids a lot lately.  We even have an empty room in our house set aside for a nursery.  Then the next day he’s looking at doing a 5K zombie run in June and asking me if I want to do it?!?!  In my head, I’m like no, I was hoping to be PG by then. 

Do you guys have any advice on how I can gently bring this up to him again? I’m having a hard time talking to him about it without getting all emotional.  My 30th birthday is in a couple of weeks and while I’m really excited for it, it’s still an emotional birthday milestone.

 

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

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@MissCountryGirl727:  Honestly, I think you should just sit down and have a conversation with him to kind of take the pulse of where both of you are.  This is something that you should be able to openly talk about with him.  You could just start out with something like “I know we previously talking about starting to try for a baby in January, but I just wanted to check in with you and see how you’re feeling about it.”  It doesn’t have to be a pressure thing, just a conversation.  And if simply talking about it is pressure, then there’s something more going on that you need to figure out (it’s a big deal thing – you should both be able to talk about it!).  

The condom thing might just be habit, he might be waiting for you to say something, or he might be feeling nervous – either way, talking openly about it will be good for you.  And as far as the race stuff – honestly, I think sometimes guys just don’t think through that kind of thing. Just kind of like “this sounds fun, we should do it!” not thinking through all the different scenarios of what might be going on at that point (I know I think WAY more about all the possibilities than my DH).

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I know, I need to talk to him.  I’m not saying that talking to him is pressure, it’s more in how I should bring it up.  Thanks for the advice! 

Post # 42
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@SadieBee:  

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@candy11:  

Thanks!  The answer I needed came out without me asking.  We are both working, so we text sometimes during the day.  He was asking me a question about our upcoming ski trip in a couple weeks with my parents.  While talking about the ski trip, he says, “I figured we should wait until after the trip to stop preventing if that’s ok with you, I don’t want you to fall and something happen if you got pregnant before the trip.”

How did I not think about this?! LOL

Post # 43
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

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@MissCountryGirl727:  Aww, that’s great – and a very good reason to wait πŸ™‚ I’d probably say that’s a good enough reason for me to just read and sip hot cocoa in the lodge, but I’m also not a big skiier Tongue Out

Post # 44
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

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@candy11:  Woohoo!  FX for you!

Post # 45
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Me! Dec was the last month I took my BC. We are NTNP because I haven’t even had a full cycle and I don’t want to jump into charting and al that stuff just yet. We will probably NTNP for 3+ months and once I get a good handle of my cycles maybe I’ll start TTC… 

Post # 46
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@MissCountryGirl727:  Good job to your hubs!! Glad you got an answer. And a good answer at that!!

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@candy11:  Yahoo!! Let the baby dancing begin!!

DH and have DTD a few times in my FW this month. Not that we are really trying to hit that window, but from charting CM and timing, we hit the window. I feel crazy that while i really really want that BFP, I’m also a little scared of it! Is that crazy? Or just normal? eek!

Post # 47
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@snowjewelz:  yay, and welcome! I stopped BC in Dec also. From what I can tell I regulated pretty quickly. I can’t be sure I’m ovulating since I haven’t used OPKs, but I’ve had a few signs that the O has returned. hopefully at least! πŸ™‚

Post # 48
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@The_Future_KB:  Thanks for the warm welcome πŸ™‚ Yeah, I’ve talked to a couple people that got pregnant right away; they told me don’t do it unless you’re ready because it might not take 3 months to regulate! If you don’t mind me asking what are your signs? 

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