Post # 1
bees. oooooh bees. im just going to tell you this story. because on the outside looking in, i know how i would feel. i thought it would be interesting to get your thoughts.
my best friend emailed me today telling me all about her holiday and how she was upset. shes the same one i previously posted about that has the sister in law who asked for an Ipad AFTER my friend had already said shed rather donate to an organization. well, she bought the damn IPad for the sister. because she just cant help herself. the sister got her…….i shit you not…..cake mix. listen, its not about the money. its the principal of the matter. AND her father in law said he wanted backless slippers so she got him these really expensive LL Bean slippers ($90.00) and he called her today to tell her that he “really would have rathered slippers with backs, these just arent what i like”…..i cant with this family! so she was curious if she was right in being upset. i told her yes. would you be?
Post # 2
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
Yeah I wouldn’t even put in the effort after this if I were her. Lesson learned hopefully early.
Post # 3
alfalfasprout10518 : Wow. Some people… you’re definitely right that Christmas doesn’t need to be a tit for tat thing but how could someone seriously think it’s ok to ASK for an iPod then give out cake mix? Like did she just go raid her pantry and wrap whatever she didn’t want anymore and hand them out?
I think LL Bean has a pretty good return/exchange policy, why wouldn’t the dad just go exchange them rather then telling her that her gift was disapointing? This family sounds like they just enjoy being assholes.
Post # 4
DrAtkins : thats what i said. next time she will know NOT to go all out
Post # 5
futuremrs2020 : exactly! the sister is just a piece of shit honestly. cant stand her. but the dad? just wow. i would never tell someone i didnt like their gift at all! jerks! im just glad its not my family lol
Post # 6
I think dad should have just gone to quietly return them. But we’re the type of people to act excited about all presents to be polite, even if we already have the same thing sitting at home or even if know we won’t use it.
What’s with people requesting presents? Is that normal? My family never did that. The kids in my hubby’s family does that but the adults don’t do that with each other.
Post # 7
Ugh the sister sounds exactly like my SIL who gave out unwrapped gifts with the tags still on (I’m not even going into what we spent on her and the $6.99 mug I got)
yes she has a right to be upset.
Post # 8
Were they rude? Yes. But no one forced her to buy extravagant gifts for people. I wouldn’t spend a lot of money on people who aren’t important to me. Hell, I’d be hardpressed to buy an ipad for anyone, even Darling Husband.
Next time, she should get something more reasonably priced that she thinks the person would like, and attach a gift receipt so they can easily return the item. Oh, and adjust her expectations – gift giving isn’t tit for tat. FWIW, I always get thoughtful gifts for people – my inlaws get me socks every year. I don’t give them lesser gifts because I know I’m getting socks.
Post # 9
I’m gonna give dad a pass.
This is his daughter. They should be close enough to be honest with each other and most people WANT to make sure they are giving something the other person would like and the gift wasn’t a waste. Now if his boss or neighbor gave him this gift, then for sure not say anything. Maybe he thought he would love that style and meant it more in a mea culpa “I f’ed up thinking I would like this style” kind of way.
HOWEVER, The sister is legit awful. Even so, having a hard time feeling sorry for your friend. No one forced her to buy her sister an iPad. In fact I can’t think of a single person I know who would spend that kind of money on someone they weren’t having sex with. And definitely not for a grown adult who demanded it like she is Veruca Salt. Sometimes you bring heartache on yourself. Hopefully Santa brought your friend a spine for Christmas and she learns an expensive lesson from this for next year.