(Closed) let’s admit it, size matters

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 4
4824 posts
Honey bee

There are other ways to be happy. Focus on those.

My guy is perfect for me, but you know what? He is sooo tall that if he was proportional for his height he would be small if he was average height.

Post # 5
2246 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

All in all it’s his and he is yours. The emotion between you is what should matter most. He can’t change it and would you prefer to change him for another size? I think you might be disappointed in the quality of the next guys character. So to be honest size doesn’t matter.

Post # 6
6351 posts
Bee Keeper

Fiance would be so upset if I ever posted something like that. I love him for who he is-not the size of his weenie.

Post # 8
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

If its any consolation FH is the largest I’ve been with and frankly I don’t love it. So in my case size matters but in a bad way. It sometimes makes sex a little uncomfortable and there are certain positions we can’t really do b/c it starts to hurt but we have learned what works and what doesn’t. How long have you been together? Time often changes things.

PP who made the comment about her posting this, thank goodness its the internet and anonymous.

Post # 9
115 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@SoontobeMrsA: Agree 100%

But also @smith2be: agree 100%

Mother Nature saw fit to be (very) generous to my SO in all aspects of his physique and when it comes to um… certain parts (ahem) it can be a mixed blessing when it comes to my comfort levels. But it’s really not a problem! I don’t feel it’s right to go into detail here but so long as both of you are loving and understanding, whether big or small, you will both do what’s best for you when it comes to lovemaking.


Post # 10
923 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would recommend following the above advice and looking into other positions.  You may be able to find something that works better for you.

I personally tend to disagree with the “bigger is always better” theory when it comes to member size.  Fiance is right around average, I’d say, but possibly on the smaller side of average.  He’s pretty tall, and a bigger guy to boot, and I know that his size below the belt is something he was a bit insecure about… He has no reason to be though.  He’s absolutely the best I’ve ever had, and I tell him he’s a stud all the time.  I think the way two people “fit” is more important that size in general.

Post # 12
36 posts
  • Wedding: September 2011

Gah!! NO!! Size doesn’t matter… it’s really what you do with it! An ex wasn’t really blessed in that department, but we had great sex. My Fiance is packing & it’s great– however, if he were smaller it wouldn’t phase me any.

My Fiance would be so hurt if I had posted something like this! Honestly, what if your man posted about something about your body & how it wasn’t good enough? I know my boobs could be bigger & my ass could be smaller, but my Fiance loves me & my body! Big & small parts included haha 🙂

Don’t sweat the small stuff & enjoy the intimacy & closeness with your man!! Sex is sex… making love is about your connection! 🙂

Post # 13
14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Go invest in a Kama Sutra book and figure out some, er, new fun positions. They also make sex toys that, ahem, add “bulk” 

Post # 14
2829 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011


agreed :/



Have you thought about your grip?

Grip totally matters.

You should try doing some kegel exercises, start with 10 a day, increasing the length of the hold and amount as you exercise your pelvic floor. I did these after childbirth and they made a WORLD of a difference. Seriously.

Post # 15
2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@SoontobeMrsA: Agreed….

Size does NOT matter … bigger isn’t always better by any means. My Fiance would be so pissed if I ever posted something like that. 

@missmouse29: VERY good point… good advice! 

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