- Miss Tattoo
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
I haven’t been on much today, shocking I know! (DD had a few doctors appointments today that were spread out.) Anyway, I have been skimming the boards on my phone while in the waiting rooms and I keep coming across real vs fake threads. It’s not just the ring boards. It’s the flowers, shoes, dresses, nails, ect.
So let’s be honest with ourselves for just one second here. I know there are bee’s on here with higher budgets, but I’m talking to the brides with budgets of $0-$10,000. Do you care about the expectations that some have put on weddings? Do you care that some bee’s may look down on you for having silk flowers? I feel like maybe David Tutera and his hatred for fake flowers has put that attitude out there.
My opinion on fake flowers? Some look really great. I was in Michaels the other day and had to touch some of them to see if they were fake! Yes, good fake flowers sometimes do cost as much or sometimes more as real ones, but you can always use fake flowers after the wedding or sell them to someone else who might need them if they aren’t beat to hell. You know what you are going to do with real flowers? They are going to die and be thrown away in the trash. That’s my opinion. And if someone on my guest list is rude enough to say something about it, I will just simply state that FI’s and my daughter’s allergies can’t handle real flowers. And it’s the truth, but folks shouldn’t have to defend their choice.
Do you care what people might think about your knock off designer shoes? If you are in a long dress, no one is going to notice your shoes and if they do, they aren’t going to talk about it for years to come. So if you want to spend $1500 on a pair of heels then by all means do so. If you can’t, then don’t. The $70 version may look different but they are still cute and still cover your feet.
And this goes for so many things. I feel like half the things people are worried about only get brought up on wedding boards. I can’t imagine anyone from my family or group of friends looking down their noses at a limited bar, silk flowers, DIY invites, knock off dresses and shoes, stuffed chicken instead of lobster, ect. My guests are there to share in our special day and not to critique every aspect of my wedding.
Again, this is not directed towards the bees who CAN have a $4000 floral budget and WANT real flowers. or $1500 shoes or spend $20k on food. This is mostly for everyone else who feel like they are going to offend the world if they get fake flowers or only serve beer and wine. I see it over and over again. The advice is usually “go for lesser quality of the real thing for cheaper because I think fake is tacky.” WTF.
So my answer to the question? No, no I do not care about what others on a message board may have to say about our wedding. I don’t care that they may shake their heads at my $500 worth of fake flowers. I could turn around and sell them for $300. I don’t care that all of my wedding day jewelery might be fake. I think real pearls are nice, but they may or may not be in the future budget. Does that mean I shouldn’t get fake ones because the wedding community may look down on me? I tip my hat to any bride who can make her budget wedding look like a million bucks because of creativity and patience.
Sorry this is long. I just can’t stand seeing ideas being called cheap and tacky because it’s not “real”