(Closed) Let's face it, it IS me…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
2999 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Dang girl!! Let it out!  You have to do what’s right for you!

Post # 4
Member
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Rachel631:  good for you! We paid for our wedding and asked for very little help/opinions and I didn’t discuss details very much at all with anyone. guess what? I had very few instances where people inserted themselves or made demands. My parents are very hands off though and Darling Husband is not close to his so I lucked out. Instead, everyone was pleasantly surprised and had a good time. Best of luck to you!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

YOU GO GIRL!!!!!! haha wow I don’t think I’ve ever said that.  However, I love your change of attitude. **** them!

Post # 6
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2203 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Woohoo! Good for you!

Post # 7
Member
901 posts
Busy bee

Ugh, evangelical atheists are the worst. Don’t they realize the irony?

I’m guilty of people-pleasing too much, too. It’s an easy trap to fall into, particularly as a woman. You’re right to choose to let go.

Best wishes for less frustration in the near future.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

High Five!!!!

Post # 9
Member
2450 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yes! This!

I got to read the bee for a while before I had to plan my wedding out, and I’m so glad I did… because I just did things my way from the beginning then.

Whenever my mom or someone else had anything negative to say, I was like “Well… we like this, so I’m just gonna go ahead and do it… since it’s our wedding.” (in the voice ted mosby used when talking about the giant phone booth he had delivered to the apartment in the first season).

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You go girl! I might need to take some lessons from you! Lol! I tend to “people please” as wel and it has definitely caused some issues, especially with the wedding planning. 

Post # 12
Member
9118 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

including one evangelically atheist family member basically implying what a selfish ***** I was…



Atheists like that make Atheists like me look bad. : Apologies for the douchecanoes you’re having to deal with. I’d just tell them to suck it up if they were being that vocal.

Post # 13
Member
872 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Look at you full of sexy sass! You go girl! 

 

Post # 14
Member
18 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Do what you want!!! I have tried to be accomodating and it bit me in the ass. I finally decided I dont have to share all my plans…include everyone in my decisions…or explain myself. IT’S YOUR WEDDING AND YOUR DAY. Do what will make you happy. If they dont like then they dont have to attend!

Post # 15
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8682 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I am sorry you have had a trying time in your planning. But I think you might need to find a happy medium between door mat and streamroller. You don’t want to become that kind of person either I am sure.

Post # 16
Member
313 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2005

Yeah, the wedding is about you and your beliefs not anyone elses.  Good for you in standing up for what you want, if they complain then don’t have to join.  You get one day to make demands and your wedding is that day, have at it and anyone who complains can eat mud!

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