(Closed) Let's have a Q&A with the waiting bees. :)

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Sub or hoagie?

    It's always called a sub!

    No way, it's a HOAGIE.

    I call it something else.

    Whatever, as long as it has meat and cheese and bread.

  • Post # 17
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    HOAGIE.

    Post # 18
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’m still waiting for a ring and a proposal even though I have the promise of a wedding date… but feel free to kick me out if that doesn’t really count ๐Ÿ™‚

     What is your sign? Do you think that influences how you are currently waiting? I’m a Taurus and nothing about it refelct me at all. (I liked the bit where it Taurus’s were not impulsive)

    How long have you been waiting? Since I started dating him. No kidding. We were friends for quite a while before then so we wanted to skip the dating step, but family wasn’t ready yet. 

    Do you sometimes get jealous of other’s people’s engagements? Yes. To the point I couldn’t stand being in the same room as disucussion about engagements. But I am getting a bit better now. 

    Do you have a walk date? Never did. He’s wanted to marry me just as long as I have wanted to marry him.

    Have you had any engagement dreams? One I remember. He proposed on my front lawn and then refused to give me the ring and became all gollumish. 

    If you’ve gone ring shopping, what’s your least favorite cut of diamond? (If you prefer another stone, then just pretend you are dealing with diamonds and had to choose!) Err. I like all sparkly things… so I guess I don’t like non sparkly cut diamonds? 

    Post # 19
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2019

    What is your sign? Do you think that influences how you are currently waiting? I’m a Taurus, and I think it kind of does. I deeply desire security and a plan, and not having a sure plan for the security is really throwing me for a loop.

    How long have you been waiting? I would say officially for about a year.

    Do you sometimes get jealous of other’s people’s engagements? Yes. Very. A lot. I know it’s really terrible of me, but it is kind of hard to see someone else get what you really really want. But this extends to other things in my life, like if someone got a job I wanted too, so these feelings aren’t just brand new in this situation. 

    Do you have a walk date? No. Leaving would destroy me and him too. I know I want to marry him and that he wants to marry me, I just have no idea when it’s going to happen.

    Have you had any engagement dreams? For a while I had several very close together, and all I could remember from any of them was that the ring was not what I wanted, lol. Again, terrible, but it was consistent across all of them so that’s why I remember.

    If you’ve gone ring shopping, what’s your least favorite cut of diamond? (If you prefer another stone, then just pretend you are dealing with diamonds and had to choose!) I really dislike Marquise and square cuts. I dunno, they’re just too pointy I guess.

    Post # 20
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    Buzzing bee

    What is your sign? Do you think that influences how you are currently waiting? I’m a Leo but I don’t think that has any bearing on how I’m waiting.

    How long have you been waiting? Um…I’m not even sure. LOL. We’ve been “engaged to be engaged” since our first anniversary and we’re about to hit 8 years in a couple of months and while I’ve previously said I’ve been waiting since that first anniversary, I’m not so sure if that’s accurate because while I knew I wanted to marry him then (earlier even) I wasn’t ready for marriage until a few years later so I wasn’t actively waiting for him to propose. So let’s just say it’s been a while.

    Do you sometimes get jealous of other’s people’s engagements? Sometimes but usually very briefly. Then I move along.

    Do you have a walk date? No. We’ve been very open and discuss our timelines frequently so we both know what’s going on.

    Have you had any engagement dreams? I’ve had a few, all of which involved very ugly rings. I think it’s because I’m anxious to know which ring he picked.

    If you’ve gone ring shopping, what’s your least favorite cut of diamond? (If you prefer another stone, then just pretend you are dealing with diamonds and had to choose!) I like round or cushion cuts myself. 

    Post # 21
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    1. Libra & nope! 

    2. Well we’ve been together for 8.5 years, but began dating when we were 12 & 13. Getting engaged has only been topic of conversation in the past year. 

    3. I know it’s bad and I shouldnt be comparing our relationship to others, but when people I know from highschool get engaged when we aren’t even engaged yet… It does make me jealous ๐Ÿ™ Im usually not jealous about other engagements, though! 

    4. No walk date. If he told me he never wanted to get married I would stay because I could not imagine my life without him and being officially married is not a prerequisite for the other stages in our lives in the long run. 

    5. I have them all the time ๐Ÿ˜› I’m just excited haha

    6. We went ring shopping. I like round, oval and cushion best. All others are meh to me. 

    Post # 22
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    Buzzing bee

    What is your sign? Do you think that influences how you are currently waiting? I am a Scorpio. Scorpios are said to be ‘jealous, possessive, emotional and have a temper’ which suits me to a point. I have those emotions in bursts about waiting, but never for extended periods of time. I think the ‘Scorpios are fiercely independent’ is true, I am very independent and though I cannot wait to get engaged and married, I don’t need it to be happy.

    How long have you been waiting? Since July 2012, when we first went engagement ring shopping. Not at the point of becoming engagement obsessed…yet.

    Do you sometimes get jealous of other’s people’s engagements? Sometimes – especially when people who have unstable relationships and have been together for a lot less time then us get engaged – but I know different relationships move at different paces and I would rather wait until it is the right time for us, rather then taking such a huge step because “everybody else is”.

    Do you have a walk date? Not at this point, we are having a ring custom made and I know it’s going to happen, though if we get to the end of 2013 without a proposal, I will talk to him (not a bitch talk, more of a “where are you at in your plan to propose? talk”).

    Have you had any engagement dreams? Occasionally, I have wedding dreams more then proposal dreams.

    If you’ve gone ring shopping, what’s your least favorite cut of diamond? (If you prefer another stone, then just pretend you are dealing with diamonds and had to choose!) My least favourite would be hearts, I personally find them tacky and childish.

    Post # 23
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    Busy bee

     

    What is your sign? Do you think that influences how you are currently waiting? I’m a taurus, very steady and patient. I was going crazy at one point but now i’m ok, he’s stands with me and i’m ok with it.


    How long have you been waiting? 
    Since Dec 2010-kinda

    Do you sometimes get jealous of other’s people’s engagements?
    I’ve gotten to deleting all the engagements on facebook but thats it.

    Do you have a walk date?


    No, we’re together for life, no matter what ^-^

    Have you had any engagement dreams? No, nothing like that lol

    If you’ve gone ring shopping, what’s your least favorite cut of diamond? (If you prefer another stone, then just pretend you are dealing with diamonds and had to choose!)


    Emerald cut stone. i much prefer the round cut stone.

    Post # 25
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    Blushing bee

    This has been fun to read the answers.

    What is your sign? Do you think that influences how you are currently waiting?

    I’m Aquarius and no I don’t think it has.

    How long have you been waiting?

    Dated almost 8 years and been waiting for three.

    Do you sometimes get jealous of other’s people’s engagements?

    Surprisingly No.   Everyone else I have been happy for but one person.  Who is a former high school friend.  The way she was bragging about finding the ring and trying it on (which I think is particularly rude and kind of loses that special moment) when her husband wasn’t there.  To where she got proposed (on an island) and finally the wedding itself which was looked like a circus, gazebo, quartet of violin, harp, cello and harp, etal.  I actually laughed till I cried because seeing her all dressed up in an $$$ gown getting married to a guy from a wealthy family.  Just had me shaking my head.  She is a girl who came from a lower middle class family and she now walks around with her nose in the air. 

    Sorry I vented but yeah I got a bit jealous but also thought she didn’t deserve it.

    Do you have a walk date? 

    Honestly no.   Currently SO and I are not on speaking terms we had a fight during boxing day and we haven’t seen or spoken to each other since. 

    Have you had any engagement dreams?  No.

    If you’ve gone ring shopping, what’s your least favorite cut of diamond? (If you prefer another stone, then just pretend you are dealing with diamonds and had to choose!)

    I don’t like Marquise cut, the standard round cut.  Uh I like a diamond but I prefer any other stone.

    Post # 26
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    Bumble bee

    What is your sign? Do you think that influences how you are currently waiting? Sagittarius…not really, normally I’m very laid back and maybe even flighty, but not when it comes to waiting lol

    How long have you been waiting? Officially, since June 2012

    Do you sometimes get jealous of other’s people’s engagements? a little

    Do you have a walk date? Sure do 

    Have you had any engagement dreams? None that I remember 

    If you’ve gone ring shopping, what’s your least favorite cut of diamond? (If you prefer another stone, then just pretend you are dealing with diamonds and had to choose!)

    we haven’t gone shopping but I told him to stay away from both round and princess..I prefer cushion or oval, but after further research I’d be happy with a round. We shall see what happens lol

     

    Post # 27
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    Worker bee

    1. Virgo.  Yes.  I can’t help but analyze everything waiting-related and otherwise.  I want to plan.  There are so many weddings coming up this summer and fall and I know SO doesn’t want to have a long engagment.  Plus, my mom is going through cancer treatment.  I know it’s superficial and hardly the main reason I’m excited for a proposal, but I’d love to be able to give my mother something to look forward to.  Chemo has been rough. She’s going to lose a breast in a month.  My sister is getting ready to start trying for a family and we’re all waiting for me to get engaged.  I’d love to have lots of happy things for my mom to look forward to. (That was long!)

    2.  Almost a year.  Last year around our 2 year dating anniversary, he said to give him a year.  He’d been underemployed for the first 1.5 years of our relationship.  

    3.  Of course.  A lot of it is because I’m so happy for them.  I can’t imagine how happy I’ll be when the day comes for me and it’s hard not to get impatient.

    4.  Yes.  He needs to have an apartment ready to go Feb 1.  Our anniversary is Jan. 30.  He had promised a year, I’m giving him a year, unless he has good reason for waiting longer.

    5.  Last night I had one, but it was about a stranger.  I couldn’t understand why I was getting engaged to a stranger (He was exceptionally unattractive and grumpy too)

    6.  Emerald.  Unless they’re very large, they’re not my thing (and that’s just plain out of budget) I’m a sparkly girl.  I think I want (and am getting) a Round Brilliant.  SO is a traditionalist.  I’d be happy with anything though.  

    Post # 28
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    What is your sign? Do you think that influences how you are currently waiting? I’m a Taurus. I don’t think it influences my waiting. I just read that apparently we’re patient, but I’ll let you know in a year or so haha

    How long have you been waiting? We’ve been together a bit over 3 years and I first started to seriously think about it about 6 months ago. 

    Do you sometimes get jealous of other’s people’s engagements? Sometimes, when the couple hasn’t been together that long (in comparison to my relationship). 

    Do you have a walk date? Nope. I don’t think I’ve been waiting that long, and based on my age (23) I’m willing to wait quite a bit longer.  

    Have you had any engagement dreams? I think only one during my super obsessed phase about a month or 2 into finding this site lol

    If you’ve gone ring shopping, what’s your least favorite cut of diamond? My most preferred is round, my least preferred is anything odd-shaped. I want my wedding band to sit flush with my e-ring without having any sorts of adjustments. So emerald, pear, marquis, are all out (and even if the wedding band could be made to sit flush against those cuts, I still prefer them less). I like very dainty rings that don’t stick out much. 

    Post # 29
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    370 posts
    Helper bee

    What is your sign? Do you think that influences how you are currently waiting? I am a Leo. I am a control freak, romantic, and love to be the center of attention (not in a bad way though!) so I do think it influences how I wait.

    How long have you been waiting? 
    About a month or so. (I know, not very long lol) We just recently had the “yeah, this is totally what I want” talk.

    Do you sometimes get jealous of other’s people’s engagements?
    Nah. I’m pretty easy going (despite being a leo) so I hold not jealosy toward others who are happy.

    Do you have a walk date? Heck no. I love the boy, I know it’ll happen sooner or later.

    Have you had any engagement dreams? Yes, I do. -.- It’s nutty ones too.

    If you’ve gone ring shopping, what’s your least favorite cut of diamond? (If you prefer another stone, then just pretend you are dealing with diamonds and had to choose!)
    Marquise..I’m not a huge fan of it. Not sure why, just not my taste.

    Post # 30
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    Bumble bee

    I don’t call them subs or hoagies just deli sandwhiches… on rolls. I mean there are sub sandwhich places but I’ve never said “I’ll have a sub/hoagie”.

    What is your sign? Do you think that influences how you are currently waiting?
    Scorpio- I’m very stubborn so yes…

    How long have you been waiting? 
    Not actively waiting- more like waiting to be done with my own goals before my SO and I can take the next step. He probably would have married me the first month we started dating and even half-jokingly asked me once and I said yes- but I had a lot to do first.

    Do you sometimes get jealous of other’s people’s engagements?
    No, I laugh when I see people who have known eachother a very short time and get engaged less than a year after dating- I think it takes a long time to get to know a person.

    Do you have a walk date?
    If we’re living abroad and I’m at risk of being deported and he won’t marry me then yes- because I’ll have to move back to the states and he’ll have his dual citizenship to help him out. One of the reasons I prefer to be engaged before we move.

    Have you had any engagement dreams?
    Yes- only after my first month of WB- none since then and that was over a year ago.

    If you’ve gone ring shopping, what’s your least favorite cut of diamond? (If you prefer another stone, then just pretend you are dealing with diamonds and had to choose!)
    I haven’t gone ring shopping but I’ve never liked N/S marquise, round, or princess cut.

    Post # 31
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    What is your sign? Do you think that influences how you are currently waiting? I’m an Aquarius, but I don’t think it has much to do with it.  

    How long have you been waiting? We’d settled on getting married about 6 months ago, but I’ve really been aware of wanting him to propose since about September, so about 4 months.

    Do you sometimes get jealous of other’s people’s engagements? No, not really.  I’m glad people are happy.

    Do you have a walk date? Not really.  If we don’t have our acts together in three or four years, I might redress that, however.

    Have you had any engagement dreams?  No, only a weird marriage one, and that was ages ago.

    If you’ve gone ring shopping, what’s your least favorite cut of diamond? (If you prefer another stone, then just pretend you are dealing with diamonds and had to choose!)  I really love princess and emerald cuts, as well as cushions, but there’s something really classic about the round solitaire that I like, too.  Basically, any good cut for the stone and the setting works for me.

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