(Closed) Were you surprised when your fiance/husband proposed?

posted 5 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: Were you genuinely surprised when your SO proposed?
    Yes, didn't see it coming : (23 votes)
    44 %
    No : (29 votes)
    56 %
  • Post # 3
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @Cynderbug:  

    Cute story!! Congratulations πŸ™‚

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My fiancé had told me he was going to propose by a certain date (his decision, not mine). Anyway, his deadline was approaching and part of me thought it would happen one night, but then dismissed it because he hadn’t done it…but then he did. I wasn’t genuinely surprised but I was a little surprised that it happened when it did!

    Post # 5
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    870 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Technically, we were both surprised by his proposal.  I go back to my hometown during the summer usually (we’re both in college), and I came back to the town we go to college in to visit him for a while.  We were lying on his bed just chatting and he got quiet for a while and then asked where I thought this relationship was going.  I wasn’t sure where he was going with this conversation, so I answered with a vague “Well, I really hope that we stay together for a long time.”  I was already sure that I wanted to marry him at that point, but I didn’t know how he felt so I hadn’t mentioned anything to him.  I asked him the same question and he replied, “I really love you, and I want to spend the rest of my life with you.  I don’t have a ring, but I’d really like it if you’d marry me.  Will you marry me?”  I smiled and said yes, but apparently he didn’t think I was taking him seriously because he said, “That was a real proposal.”  I replied, “I know, and that was a real yes.”  He told me later that he hadn’t at all expected to propose that day or even that month, but the moment felt so right that it just happened.

    A few months after we got my ring, he re-proposed.  I had gone back to my hometown for a visit, and when I came back, I came up to his apartment.  He was dressed up (which surprised me) and coincidentally, so was I.  When I came into his room, he handed me a note and told me not to read it yet (he told me later that this was in case I ran off due to later steps in his plan).  Then he said that he wanted the ring back and gave a speech that I really don’t remember.  It put me nearly in tears, though.  It sounded a lot like he was breaking up with me.  Then he  turned on his TV and it was playing one of my favorite songs and had the words “(My Name), will you marry me?” and a picture of us on the screen.  Then he got down on one knee and asked me to marry him.  I said yes, of course.  He said he felt bad about proposing before because he didn’t have the ring and therefore didn’t do it “right,” so he wanted to do it better this time.

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Um… no πŸ˜› lol.  I let him think I was though!

    The story… we started ring shopping about a month before the proposal.  Found the ring together.  There was no way a large stone was in the budget so I fell in love with a beautiful, vintagey cluster ring that looked like the Eiffel Tower.  The night we ordered the rings (I was there too) I was having really bad stomach pains and I ended up in the ER a couple of hours later!  That started two weeks of agony, in and out of hospital while they tried to figure out what was wrong.  Ended up having gynie surgery more as an investigation than anything but it turned out I had a really bad infection they cleared out.  Fiance was there with me the whole time (my parents are in NZ so at the start, he was my rock and his mum, a nurse, was being wonderful with support & advice).  There was a lot of ring finger stroking going on through the worst of it!  The rings (we bought the lot!) were going to be ready in a couple of weeks which coincided with about the time the whole saga ended and I finally started getting better & sprung myself from the hospital.  Fiance made up a really good story about the jeweller making a mistake with the sizing etc but he’s not the best liar πŸ˜‰ lol. 

    Because i knew about the ring and knew the proposal was coming, Chris has said he was going to take me out on a week of dates every couple of nights, with “decoys” so I wouldn’t know when it was coming.  The first was on a Wednesday night, we’d been wanting to check out a really trendy pizza joint which is by St Kilda beach here in Melbourne.  The pull was that apparently there are penguins down on the pier that come out at dusk.  I was very, very suspicious πŸ˜› lol.  Anyway, we found a couple of penguins and took some absolutely gorgeous photos of the sunset.  Fiance was grinning like crazy so I was pretty sure something was up, but by the time it was dark and we left the pier to head for dinner I figured I’d been wrong.  Turns out he was just waiting to get me in a more private spot! 

    It was all very sweet but I kind of wish he’d organised something a little more fancy & surprising to follow… we ended up celebrating with meatball pizza & diet coke (we don’t drink)! lol.  I love him to bits but romantic activities/surprises aren’t really his forte πŸ˜›  It was our one year anniversary a week later so I organised a night at the Hilton and nice dinner for us which I like to think of as our real engagement celebration, even though I was the one who planned it πŸ˜›

    He thinks he totally surprised me and that it was super romantic, and he’s so cute & sweet about it that I’m 100% happy to go along with that story, even though on the inside I feel slightly differently about it.  His proposal speech did include a favourite saying in Spanish that he learned from Google Translate! lol.  He’s a honey.

     

    Post # 7
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @Cynderbug:  I absolutely love your story.  And I love that it’s yet another situation where the girl unintentionally stymied some of the guy’s plans!  It happens to some degree in almost every story I hear (among my friends).  For me, my Fiance was trying to get me closer to the beach and in a more beautiful spot, but my feet were killing me and it was in the opposite direction to where we were headed for dinner, so I insisted we not take the scenic route πŸ˜› lol.  I kind of regret it now, because the spot he wanted to propose would have been more romantic and pretty πŸ˜›

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