(Closed) Let's hear it… did anyone wear white to your wedding???

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Did anyone wear white at your wedding?
    Yes! : (22 votes)
    63 %
    No : (13 votes)
    37 %
  • Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    My BIL’s girlfriend (who was sitting at one of the main tables) wore a white cocktail dress. It irked me a tiny bit (just because it’s a known rule that you don’t do that), but it definitely wasn’t a big deal. She’s very sweet, so I think it was accidental. 

    Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    At my cousins wedding a woman wore a long white lace dress… Boho style. The brides dress was a long white lace fit and flare. The reception was outdoors and very dimly lit, so there were a few times I actually did mistake her walking by for the bride. I thought it was pretty poor. I usually don’t care about these things and didn’t even notice if anyone wore white to my own wedding but this definitely stood out to me!

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    Post # 15
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Long story short, I traveled for a wedding and had a last-minute wardrobe disaster, fortunately discovered the night before, and had to wear a (mostly) white dress to a recent wedding as a guest…. Called the bride to get her feelings… She basically said as long as I wasn’t naked or wearing a Mickey Mouse costume, she didn’t really care what I wore, so long as I was comfortable and happy. Honestly I don’t get the whole “wearing white is taboo” thing. 

    Post # 16
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    goingtotherooftopoflove:  yes and I didn’t do anything because I didn’t care.

    Post # 17
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    goingtotherooftopoflove:  yes and I didn’t do anything because I didn’t care.

    goingtotherooftopoflove:  why do you refer to your husband as FH (isn’t this future husband) if you already had your wedding?

    Post # 18
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I honestly think it’s a stupid thing to get upset about. Who cares? Everyone could wear white to mine and I wouldnt care, or for that matter notice. It’s not like people don’t know who the bride is. And creams and whites are so pretty, anyway. 

    Post # 19
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    2564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Every guest could show up in a wedding gown and I would not care.  Guest attire is at the bottom of the list of things I care about.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    There were a couple patterned white dresses, and I honestly did not give one crap. I would only care if they looked like wedding dresses.

    Post # 20
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    Sugar Beekeeper

    Even if everyone agreed that this is a rule, which they do not, it is far worse to be openly rude, hostile or unwelcome to an invited guest.  

    The more liberal and contemporary sources, including Emily Post,  have declared this rule to be passe as long as the dress does not look “bridal”  while the more traditional, such as Miss Manners, still gives the thumbs down to black, white or red.  

    I would not have been  offended by someone wearing white to my wedding, however, if that wasn’t the case,  it would have helped me to realize that not everyone is on the same page on this one.  Personally, I would not  wear white as a guest, though.  

    Post # 21
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    1081 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    goingtotherooftopoflove:  No one did at my wedding, but a coworker and friend wore a pale pink dress, and in one of the guest photos the flash made it look almost sort of white, and SHE was freaking out apologizing profusely over how “inconsiderate” and “rude” she was, and she had no idea it would look almost white in pictures, etc..

    I laughed and told her she was crazy. I didn’t care, and I tried my best to calm her down.  She looked beautiful, and she was comfortable and happy and that’s all that matters! 🙂

    I don’t care what people wear, and I honestly can’t comprehend why it bothers some people (I don’t mean any offense to the people who ARE bothered by it, it’s just not something I can wrap my brain around).

    Post # 23
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    Helper bee

    goingtotherooftopoflove:  One of my cousins wore a short white lace cockatil dress. Tbh all I thought was she looked gorgeous. Hadn’t seen her in a couple of years

    Post # 24
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I haven’t gotten married yet, and this isn’t about white…but I’m really annoyed at my Future Mother-In-Law about her dress. All last year all she kept talking about was how I had to tell her what color my mom was wearing bc she didn’t want to stand out. Well my bridesmaids dresses are all black but have some lace at the top. So guess what kinda dress she had to buy? An all black dress with some lace on the top! It’s not a huge deal but it’s ANNOYING. She’s just been so annoying through the whole wedding planning.  I was planning on having my god daughter as one of my flower girls…my god daughter is her niece’s daughter…well she decided to buy her the dress to wear in my wedding! !! She nvr asked me what I want my flower girls wearing or anything.  It’s a cute dress, but it’s also ivory and gold and my colors are black, ivory, & silver! So now I’m not having her in my wedding,  I don’t care. You don’t just go & do something like that.  I would’ve liked both flower girls to at least have similar dresses! I’m really sorry ladies…I obviously needed to vent. Nothing I said has anything to do with your topic & I totally didn’t intend on doing this. I guess I needed it off of my chest.  Sorry.

    Post # 30
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Yes…well it was a very light ivory and it wasn’t even ME!! lol

    I wore deep purple so I couldn’t have care less about what other people wore. It is kind of amusing though that out of 14 guests (including Darling Husband and I) 2 others decided to wear purple. Maybe I should have claimed it?! 😉

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