Post # 31
I accidently did wear a off white dress to a wedding when I was 19. It was a baby doll cocktail style dress. I didn’t even think anything of it at the time because I figured it was off white and casual, but looking back I wish I chose something else. So yes it can be accidental and not done to spite anyone lol I think people should do their best to not wear white but as long as it’s not a formal long dress or remotely bridal it’s not the end of the world. But I still judge people who do a little esp if they are older and should know better.
Post # 32
goingtotherooftopoflove: Well, I’m still here after the redo, and I confess I’m in the (slightly) more uptight bunch. LOL A future (older female) IL went to the trouble to approach me to ask about what she might wear to the wedding. I think she wondered what color dress I would be wearing, since I’m an encore bride. Anyway I told her I was wearing a warm ivory color dress, so anything that “wasn’t light colored” was fine with me. Before the sun set that day she announced she would be wearing a white dress to the wedding. I have seen the dress, and it is stark raving white. Ah, well. I doubt I will even notice on the big day!! LOL
Post # 33
Before my wedding I thought if anyone wore white I would be enraged, but on the day, one of my aunts was wearing a white dress with a bit of black on it, and the only thought I gave it was “Wow! That silhouette looks great on Aunty Jules!”.
Post # 35
Just got married last night!
Yes my cousin wore a knee-length cream lace dress that I personally loved. I wanted to tell her that I liked it but I didn’t want her to think I was being sarcastic.
I thought it was weird but it didn’t bother me one bit. She certainly didn’t look like a bride lol.
Post # 36
goingtotherooftopoflove: I’m still here after the re-do, and it would bother me if anyone wore white to my wedding. I think it’s disrespectful, especially if it is intentional. I wouldn’t call them out on it- but I bet my mom would- Mama Bear to the rescue.
Post # 37
I have an engaged friend who told me that one of her guests asked her if it’d be OK to wear a white lace dress that is sold on a wedding dress website. Not kidding! Some people are so oblivious!
Post # 38
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
goingtotherooftopoflove: Yes! Well, it hasn’t happened just yet, but FI’s groomsman’s girlfriend sent me a photo of the dress asking if it was okay. It tried to politely tell her several ways over the course of the conversation that I didn’t think it was appropriate, but she wouldn’t budge. So I guess she messaged me to tell me what she was wearing, not ask? Ha ha.
She claims it isn’t white, but it photographs awfully white, so I’m not too psyched (plus my dress is ivory). Some of my friends have (fake) plans to spill wine on her so she has to go change
Anyway, here’s the dress:
Post # 39
gingerkitten: What color does she think it is? Looks pretty white to me too!
Post # 40
My Mother-In-Law wore a white knee length dress with blue flowers on it(mainly white) and it didnt bother me in the least. If she had shown up in a long all white gown that resembled a wedding dress, I wouldve had issues lol.
Post # 41
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
kl1987: Peach. I’ve surrendered any chance of winning the battle, but I’ve asked my photog to try to avoid pictures of her (we don’t get along well in the first place, so she’s at 2 strikes).
Post # 42
One woman wore white pants, another a white and black but mainly white dress. A family friend dressed her two girls in white dresses they’d worn to be flowergirl’s in a wedding a month earlier. I only noticed when I started seeing guest photos, got my pro pictures and video back. I was on cloud nine that day and couldn’t have cared any less. Even if I had noticed, I sure as shit wasn’t going to “confront” any of them about it. What good would it have done other than make be look like a self-absorbed brat? It’s not like these women or girls had a change of clothes in the car.
Post # 43
MrsPaulsBabyBallerina: I probably wouldn’t have noticed DH’s cousin if she wasn’t walking in late as we arrived 😛 obviously I wasn’t going to tell her to change but I do think there are some things you probably shouldn’t do just because you can (sure, it probably won’t cause a ruckus to wear white at a wedding… but there are so many more colours to choose from!) 😉
Post # 44
The stepmom of a friend of mine wore her own wedding dress to friend’s wedding (It wasnt lacy, but long and white). The dad didnt realize it till he got to the ceremony and was furious — he gave his brother (friend’s uncle) money as they left the ceremony and told him to take SM to get a large scarf or jacket or whatever to cover it up at reception. The bride saw her and tried her best to restrain from laughing.
Post # 45
gingerkitten: thats a short wedding dress. Im uptight I guess and I would tell her to return it.