(Closed) Let's hear it… did anyone wear white to your wedding???

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Did anyone wear white at your wedding?
    Yes! : (22 votes)
    63 %
    No : (13 votes)
    37 %
  • Post # 46
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    Well..I know at least one person will be wearing white at my wedding since the dress I picked and bought for my Maid/Matron of Honor is white/cream. I would probably have a mini-meltdown if somebody wore a true long, lacy, wedding-like dress to my wedding, though. IMO, it’s just rude. You don’t just have that laying around in your closet, you know? Since mine is a Destination Wedding I don’t think it’ll happen. Short white/cream/ivory dresses I could care less unless they are definitely “bridal”.

    Post # 47
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    No idea, I was too busy to remember or care lol.

    Post # 48
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    A cousin of mine did.  I didn’t even realize it until I was looking at pictures and noticed it.  She wore a white sundress, and looked super cute.  Even if I would have noticed the day of, I wouldn’t have cared.  She just wore something that she looked good in, and it wasn’t even close to a bridal gown.  Honestly, I didn’t care.

    Post # 49
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

    bananchik:  RIGHT?  I would love to,  but my previous attempts didn’t work,  and we’re all leaving for the Destination Wedding in two weeks,  so that’s not much time for her to find something new,  anyway.  I’m really hoping that she changed her mind and bought something else (it wasn’t yet purchased when she sent the photo).

    Post # 50
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I…don’t think so?  I didn’t really notice what most people were wearing.

    Post # 51
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    goingtotherooftopoflove:  I honestly have no clue if anyone wore white to our wedding.  I had way too much going on that day to pay attention to what people were wearing.  If someone had worn white, I wouldn’t have cared.

     

    This whole thing about people mistaking someone else for the bride….LOL HOW???  If YOU invited these people to your wedding, they should know who they are, right?

    I’ve never really understood the big deal.  And I’ve always looked up to brides who were gutsy enough to have thier BMs in white.  I think it looks cool, too. 

    There was one person wearing jeans– and I only noticed because he was one of the group who RSVPed on the very last day (everyone sent them in early because we sent invites out early) and that group had added 4 uninvited people to thier RSVP– it was also the ony group of people I had never met.  They caused a little bit of ruckus and rearranging because of thier RSVP– so of course I was looking forward to meeting this group of poeple who did this LOL 

    But there is no one else who I can really remember what they wore, unless I go back and look at pictures 🙂

    Post # 52
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    One of my best friends wore a cream cocktail dress to my wedding. I think she looked gorgeous and it did not bother me at all! I certainly wasn’t worried about whether people would mistake her for the bride, or what her “motives” were in wearing white, or any of the other usual concerns. I was too busy enjoying the best day of my life to care about other people’s fashion choices!

    I think it’s an outdated rule, especially with so many brides selectively letting go of wedding traditions, no longer wearing white themselves, etc. I think if you know that the couple getting married is a relaxed and/or modern pair, it’s fine. If you’re going to a really formal or traditional wedding, or don’t know the couple well enough to be sure, maybe don’t risk it. But for the most part, I think this taboo is on its way out.

    Post # 53
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    gingerkitten:  Avoid having her in pictures and put her at the kids table! 🙂

    Post # 54
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center

    I had two ladies show up to our wedding in solid white dresses. Both of them are DH’s cousins. I think the only reason I noticed was because of the family photos we took. It didn’t really bother me, so I didn’t say anything to them.

    Post # 55
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I literally have no idea what anyone wore to my wedding accept that my Mother-In-Law wore an all lace dress. Wtf my dress was all lace

    Post # 56
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    We had one guest wear a long white lace dress. It was kinda silly of them. It didn’t so much bother me but there were many people who made comments about it. I think it really just reflected on them but it didn’t bother me or ruin the day or anything serious. 

    Post # 57
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    My wedding is in about a month.  My sister has told me that she plans on wearing a white dress to the wedding. Since my sister and I don’t get along well, I feel like this is a move meant to be disrespectful by her.  I know she won’t look like the bride, but she will still be in family pictures with me in an all white lacy cocktail dress.  When asked if she could find a dress in a different color I was told that if I didn’t like what she was wearing I could buy her another dress.  

    Post # 58
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    A friend’s wife wore a short white dress. I didn’t notice personally, since I was busy being the bride and all, but everyone else certainly noticed and made fun of her the next day when she wasn’t around. I would never wear white to a wedding — if people are going to talk about how I looked in my dress as a guest, I’d rather they talk about how great I looked than how much of an idiot I looked like in my white dress.

    Post # 59
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

    Wylie231388:  maybe I should make her a flower girl?  >:)

    Post # 60
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    No. Some girls had white in their dresses, but no white white ones. 

    My mom wore champagne. 

    My husband’s niece showed up looking like a $2.00 whore. I’d rather a white dress than what she looked like. (ah, it felt so good to confront her;-)

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