Let's hear your current frustrations/vents with wedding planning

posted 6 months ago in Emotional
Post # 31
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743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

My wedding is in 182 days. My Future Mother-In-Law, who held my guest list hostage for 5 months, just added an additional 5 people to my guestlist. Even though I have already gotten them back from the calligrapher and they are due to be sent in the next week or two. Hello 200 person guest list. >.<

-screams internally-

Post # 32
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449 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

carlifaye :  My current main fustration is with my bridesmaids dragging their feets!!!!

I hate having to hold hands, if you want to do it I shouldn’t have to stay on your every second just to make you get your dress.

Also, figuring out the centerpieces and getting all of the decor as we are decorating our own wedding.

 

Good luck to you as well )

Post # 33
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324 posts
Helper bee

My mother is giving me a hard time about my wedding. She is like “Marie Barone” in  “Every body loves Raymond” TV show. I did a good job brushing her off and doing things my way beause we don’t live in the same city. However, I am stressed about her critiquing my appearance and complaining about other things,  such as food and wedding decorations, if she decides to come to my wedding. 

“Don’t wear mermaid style dress. You are fat and that style will make you look fatter. You have a large butt.”

“You only spent that much on your wedding dress. It must be a very horrible one.”

“You should have a wedding in a hotel. What? It’s not in a hotel?” Huge sigh. “Then, I may not be able to make it to your wedding.”

“You should have 200 people in your wedding. What?! You are only inviting 50 -60 people.” Huge sigh. “I don’t think I can attend your wedding.”

“Your wedding is a burden.”

“Why didn’t you just have a wedding in Vancouver?”

“Mum, I did a small one in Vancouver but you chose not to attend it.”

“That was not considered a wedding. And I was on vacation.”

 

I am also worried about putting my parents in the same room. I’m biting my finger nails as I am typing this.

Post # 34
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1025 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

carlifaye :  100% agree and in fact I started a thread a few weeks ago talking about how over the whole process I was. And I was surprised how many people agreed with me. Here I thought someone would come out of the woodwork and say “oh, well it must be because you don’t want to get married”, which even I thought for a while. But the truth is, I can’t wait to be married. I’m just over the stress of the wedding.

And I’m so done with people being like “you must be so excited” and “you’ll miss it when it’s over”. Maybe that’s true. But I just exited the hell of Laser-cut card and pearl-finish paper that was the invitation stage, and am about to jump into the hell of make-up artists and hair stylists, so I can’t tell you for damn sure I am ready for it to be done.

Post # 35
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136 posts
Blushing bee

I am fed up with people trying to control our guest list. If a sibling and their spouse were invited and they know their adult children and there SO were not why do they keeping asking? It’s rude AF and the sense of entitlement is so real. What is also real is that these adults know that mommy and daddy will pay their expenses. They just want a free vacation. 

 

Post # 36
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449 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

odaile1 :  That’s horrible!! I understand that’s your mom, but I would rid her of her worries and simply tell her she’s not invited to my wedding….harsh? maybe yes, but that’s what I’d do. If she’s going to pay for all this stuff she’s looking down on you for not having then that’s fine but if not, she has no say in your dress, where you have your wedding, or how many people you invite. This is supposed to be YOUR day and in order to keep it special I would uninvite ANYBODY I had to, no one is too good to be uninvited if they interfere with your happiness on the one day you are supposed to be over the moon with joy. Good Luck hun.

Post # 37
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82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I posted in a thread here not long ago that I just learned the park right next door to my outdoor ceremony is hosting a country music festival the same night as my wedding so I’m worried that the music will be too loud and drown out my ceremony. I just have to try to make the best of it though because obviously there is nothing I can do.

I have a nosy coworker that keeps asking me about my wedding planning and then blatantly shakes her head or rolls her eyes if she doesn’t like what I have to say. It’s my wedding, bitch, not yours. And also my other coworkers that keep asking me where their invites are. We don’t hang out outside of work, so I don’t know why you would expect an invitation to my wedding.

Two of my bridesmaids are planning a bridal shower for me, but they don’t have a date planned for it yet and they told me they will be discussing it April 16th. My wedding is in June so I guess that’s cutting it kinda close? But whatever I am grateful that they want to throw me a party.

Surprisingly I have very few things to vent about anymore because things that were stressing me out before resolved themselves. My fiance finally started getting more involved in planning and has even offered to spearhead the tail end for me since he will not be taking spring classes and I am. I had two bridesmaids that were dragging their feet on everything and they finally got their dresses and booked their hotel rooms. So for the most part, I think I am okay.

 

Post # 38
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324 posts
Helper bee

MsJ2018 :  Thanks! She is not paying for any part of the wedding. I won’t univite my mother but I will give her an option to not come. I am going to have a chat with her and politely tell her that I don’t want to burden her with my wedding. If it is an inconvinience for her, she does not need to attend my wedding. I also know how it will be difficult for her and my father to be in the same room. I will gladly send her photos and videos of my wedding. I can also have a small party after the wedding for her to attend.

Post # 39
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449 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

odaile1 :  I’m so sorry your mom is acting that way. I also am worried about having my parents in the same room. They haven’t seen each other since 2006. My dad has been dating a very nice woman for over 8 years and my mom has not even gone out on one date since my parents divorced 20+ years ago. She’s already making snide comments about his girlfriend being at the wedding. I’m worried she’s going to be rude instead of just sucking it up and being pleasant for a day or two.

Post # 40
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324 posts
Helper bee

nightskyforest :  I feel you. Many people get divorced or separated but they bahave well in weddings, funerals and other events. But both of us seem to be unlucky with our parents. The last time my parents saw each other was in 2003 and it was ugly. But I think if your mother makes snarky comments, your father and his gf will deal with her appropriately. I plan to seat my parents very far away from each other. I also plan to have separate photos with them. I am also going to hang out separately with them. Good luck with your wedding!

Post # 41
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667 posts
Busy bee

oh man, bee. it’s crazy. I feel for you, and I hope your day is incredible and all you dream it will be. 

I’m four months out (just found out…long story) and the costumer i had found who has the skills to make my dress and seemed really excited about it just flaked out today, leaving a text “I really just can’t talk right now.” which seems odd and personal from a business. 

so… I’m scrambling to cobble together the design. I gave myself ONE day to freak out, but now I’ve got my sense of humor back. It helps..whatever you do, relocate your sense of humor, it will make all the wedding insanity better. 

Post # 42
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667 posts
Busy bee

kiraleann :  OMG what a nightmare. oh bee! I am so sorry D: 

Post # 43
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82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

ahsoka :  Right? The best part is I don’t even like country music. LOL.

Post # 44
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449 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

odaile1 :  Thank you, good luck with yours as well! Good call on seating them as far away from each other as possible, I will try to do that.

Post # 45
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694 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - Country/barn

My current frustration is choosing songs for the ceremony! I think this has been the most difficult task since I started planning. Our wedding is 1 month. I’m pretty sure no one is going to remember let alone really care what songs we played. But I want songs that fit and are meaningful to us. 

Oh, and my hair. I’ve had 3 hair trials and have not loved any of them. So I really don’t know what my hair style is going to be the day of.

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